Question: I have been listening to your recent YouTube video on CPTSD (Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). I have been listening to your video in advance of the upcoming webinar, and it stirred a lot for me that I’d like to bring to the masters.
I have become increasingly aware of how sensitive my nervous system is. When I look honestly, my four lower bodies identify strongly with many CPTSD symptoms, especially being overwhelmed, hyperactivity, and difficulty regulating when I am triggered. I am also a single parent to a young, very bright, strong-willed, high-energy, and often very challenging little boy. He is not to blame for my reactions, but the level of stimulation, boundary-pushing defiance, and constant engagement can be one of my biggest triggers, specifically manifesting in me as a hyper-controlled fight-flight responses. At times I feel overwhelmed by sensory input and pressure, and I notice myself reacting in ways that echo patterns from my childhood. I was raised in an environment where the adults around me could not regulate their nervous systems. I experienced physical, emotional, psychological, and sexual abuse across different relationships and stages of life. I have done a great deal of healing, and I know I made real progress, but also see how deeply some of these patterns were conditioned into me.
What makes this especially hard is the pressure I put on myself because of the standards I hold, the teachings I value, and the way I have been perceived as capable or intelligent. There is a lot of shame around the reality that I am still wounded. The truth is I am injured and live a pretty independent life without a lot of support, and trying to parent, heal, and hold myself to a high spiritual standard with good intentions at the same time can feel overwhelming. My life is improving, but it often feels harder than it used to. I carry a lot emotionally and physically, and there is often significant physical pain along with the emotional weight. I am trying very hard, and sometimes life feels like too much.
My question is this, what specific course or practices would you recommend for directly resolving CPTSD-level nervous system dysregulation, particularly in the context of parenting, while working consciously with Mother Mary and the ascended masters, and perhaps shedding some light about relationship dynamics like these?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2026 New Year Webinar
What you describe here is a typical response for many avatars and it really goes all the way back to the attitude you had before coming to earth. We have given many teachings about this, including the teachings on the birth trauma, but after the teachings about the birth trauma, we have also occasionally given teachings about how you looked at coming to earth. We have talked about how you need to resolve this.
What we can say here is this: the main problem you are facing right now, which is the case for many avatars, is that you are holding yourself to a high standard and you feel you are not living up to it, because you feel you should not be wounded. Now, this feeling may be realistic enough on a natural planet, but it is not realistic on an unnatural planet like earth. No one, myself included, can take embodiment on earth without being wounded. No one has ever done so. You need to realize that even though you have created separate selves after you came to earth, you had what we can call a separate self before you came, where you had the attitude that you should be able to take embodiment on earth without getting your hands dirty, so to speak, without being wounded, without reacting.
But this is not a realistic expectation, and therefore, you need to look at this, use even my teachings from the book Healing Your Spiritual Traumas to go back, not to the original birth trauma, but even before that. You can still use the same steps and uncover this unrealistic expectation and let it die, let it go. If you can make this switch and accept that you are an avatar, you are bright, you are smart, you are capable… but so is any other avatar. All avatars were highly evolved on their natural planets. That is why they are all susceptible to this, quite frankly, serpentine lie, we might say, that you should have been able to come to earth and not react, not be wounded. This is what puts you in a catch-22, where you are putting too much stress on yourself. You are literally putting yourself in a situation that will overwhelm anybody. But it is not the outer situations, including your son, that is doing this, it is the inner pressure you are putting on yourself because of this unrealistic expectation.
You need to recognize here, as we have said before, we who are today ascended and who embodied on earth, we were wounded, we were hammered down by the fallen beings, we experienced PTSD, but we overcame it. We overcame it by first looking at this unrealistic expectation that we should have been able to come to earth without being traumatized. Look at the planet you are on. How could you embody here without being traumatized? See that this is a separate self. I am not saying you came to earth with that separate self. You came to earth with a certain expectation and when your expectation was not met, you created a separate self that is blaming you. In some cases this happened as a result of the birth trauma, because the birth trauma was your “hitting the concrete experience,” where you realized that you could not live up to your expectation that you would be able to remain cool, calm and collected on earth and not react here. Now you may have an idea like this messenger, for example, of the Buddha sitting under the bow tree facing the demons of Mara and not reacting because he had no attachments, but you did not come here with Buddhahood. Buddhahood, non-attachment to the things on earth, is what you develop over many lifetimes on earth by encountering all of the terrible situations that occur on earth. You encounter something and then you can become non-attached, but you cannot be non-attached beforehand. What you need to do here is work on this separate self that is holding you to an impossible standard. When you let that self die, you will gain a completely different perspective on every other aspect of your life. It will be much easier for you to deal with everything else. It will be much easier for you to overcome other separate selves. You can basically say the separate self I am talking about, where you think you should have been able to not react here on earth, can prevent you from looking at other separate selves that were born from reacting. You are wanting to deny these separate selves in a desperate attempt to maintain the image that you can still be in control, you can still be cool, calm and collected here on earth.
You need to accept: no, you cannot be in control here on earth. You cannot avoid being wounded. Nobody ever has. And when you accept this, you can forgive yourself for having been wounded. That means you can now, instead of resisting looking at the separate selves that you created, you can now neutrally look at them and overcome them. But as long as you have this separate self that blocks you from acknowledging that you have an unrealistic expectation of yourself, it is very difficult to heal the other selves.
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