Question: It was said in a previous dictation that people have at times left families and marriages that were part of their Divine plan because the pull of the karmic tie to another person they met was too strong. They were not supposed to leave their family. I have met people with whom I have had a not so traumatic past life with, had a platonic but strong reaction to. Sometimes there is an OCD element, but it was never romantic. Other times I have had very traumatic previous lifetimes with people and had a tremendous pull that was romantic, which is embarrassing and distressful because it was not in my Divine plan to be with them in that way. Why can’t the karmic pull, be just OCD and not romantic? Feeling embarrassed about the second part makes me not want to look at the reason why we meet in the first, why we meet in the first place. Why cannot they all be platonic? I know they can be because I experienced many as so.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2026 New Year Webinar.
Well what you are experiencing is that you had a difficult relationship with a person in the past and there was a romantic attraction or romantic relationship in the past and that is why you have a romantic attraction in this life. There are other people where you just have karma, but it did not involve a romantic relationship, so therefore, it is platonic.
But you are right that they can all be platonic. This just requires you to make a firm decision that a romantic relationship is out of the question. I am not asking you to make that decision with the outer mind, I am asking you to tune into your Divine plan and see what is in your Divine plan and if you intuitively feel that you are not meant to have any more romantic relationships beyond what you have, then you make that decision and therefore, even though you may feel a pull, it does not become overpowering.
You could also look at why are you embarrassed by having a romantic attraction because if this prevents you from looking at what you need to learn from the relationship, then it is not constructive. In fact, it is never constructive to be embarrassed about anything because the fallen beings will use it against you. Realize that there are some separate selves involved here and realize that also the OCD is coming from separate selves. You can use this to work on these separate selves to bring them out of the subconscious mind, look at them and let them die, whereby you can come to a point where you can meet a person that you have a karmic relationship with but there is no romantic or other strong attraction. You are just neutrally looking at it, asking yourself what you need to learn, looking at your psychology, working through those separate selves and then moving on.
There can be in karmic relationships this very strong attraction to overcome the separate selves that cause you to feel that you are tied to that person and this can be misinterpreted by the conscious mind as a strong attraction or strong romantic attraction. Many spiritual people have, when they joined the spiritual movement, met a person where they had such a strong karmic attraction. Some have, as we have said, left their families, engaged in these relationships and it has not been what was in their Divine plan. But then again there are other people who need to have more than one relationship during a lifetime as it is part of their Divine plan.
You need to tune into this intuitively but you can only really do this when you are neutral.That means looking at your reaction to these relationships, realize the reaction comes from a separate self and using our tools to overcome it.
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