Question: I have been hurt and I couldn’t find the strength to forgive and move on. For a long time, I didn’t want to forgive. But now I’m tired of the limitations I’m facing and I want to know where to start on the path of forgiveness. What is forgiveness? Is forgiveness about forgetting and behaving as if nothing ever happened?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2020 Webinar – Choosing America’s Future.
Obviously what I have said in the previous answer applies here as well. But it is very important to realize that forgiving is not a matter of pretending like nothing happened. This is what in psychology is called denial. It is not a matter of forgetting by pushing it out of your mind. It is as I said in the previous answer a matter of coming to the point where you are free from all of these things in your psychology that are pulling on you, the separate selves, the accumulated fear-based energies, and therefore you are free to make the decision to forgive. The question again simply is: Do you want to be free? And if you want to be free, you have to realize that by forgiving others, you are setting yourself free.
The common misconception as we have said before is that when you forgive others, you are letting them off the hook. The reality is that by forgiving others, you are letting yourself off the hook because you are making the decision that whatever these people did to you, it will not define you anymore. You will not hold on to it. You will not seek to hold them accountable. You will not seek to change them. You will not seek to punish them. It does not matter. You just want to be free of them. You do not want to do anything to them. You do not want them to do anything to or for you. You just want to be free. That is a decision you have to make. But as I said, there can be quite some work that you need to do before you are free to make that decision.
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