Question: Could Mother Mary comment on the rather common reaction among women I know when after some time in a relationship many of them at some point formulate the accusation toward their partner, you are with me only because of sex. I can see a self in me that definitely fears a scenario like that. It is a very painful self that causes a terrible pain in my heart. Most of the time that self lies dormant, but when it gets triggered, it opens a portal for many aggressive projections that feel like hell has broken loose through accusations against men. How can women deal with the reality that so many men are addicted to sex and treat women as sexual objects without being pulled into that reactionary self that opens up these merciless projections which make it even more difficult to regain balance. Maybe Mother Mary could offer a higher perspective that would help us deal with that self without being pulled into this reactionary spiral.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2026 Lithuania Conference.
Well, you have to understand here that both men and women are subjected to tremendous projections from the dark forces and the collective consciousness because these dark forces want to divide two people who are in a relationship and so they have certain projections they can use against men that men often respond to. They have certain projections they use against women that women are vulnerable to. And it is a matter of these projections from dark forces. It is also a matter of patterns in the collective consciousness, and these have been established over a long time. When you look at the traditional relationship between men and women that is, as we talked about earlier, based on traditional values which when you see there is a very long history in patriarchal cultures of men feeling like their wives or their partners are their property and that the woman should always give them sex whenever they want to.
This is a very old pattern. There is a huge beast projecting at both men and women because there are, of course, myriad examples where men have a stronger sex drive than women. They want to have sex, but it is more of a physical release they are seeking not an emotional connection. And that makes women feel ignored, used and this is all magnified by this very old pattern.
You see that there has been an actual abuse from men towards women for a very long time. But this has also created a collective beast that affects women and makes them feel more used than they necessarily are. They react to it stronger than they, strictly speaking, need to. But you have, of course, a complication here in the modern age where pornography is so readily available on this wonderful tool called the internet, which was meant to liberate people but instead, as everything else, is being used by the fallen beings to enslave people. And men are especially susceptible to this as we have said before. Most men are addicted to sex basically through pornography or stimulation with pictures and advertising and this and that.
Really, from a spiritual perspective, the only solution is that if you are in a relationship both men, the man and the woman, need to look at the subconscious selves that you have, so to speak, inherited from your parents from the collective consciousness. The attitude that men have towards women in your society, the attitude that women have towards men. Both have to be willing to look at these subconscious selves and also call for their protection against their projections. But then you have to also if you really want to resolve this, be willing to talk about it. Talk about your attitude to sex, talk about your feelings about this. Women are always looking for a more emotional connection that the physical act is not as important for women as it is for men. And most men do not grasp this. And right there is the cause of much conflict. Men need to step up and realize that women have a different experience of sex than men do. It has always been that way, it always will be that way because women are different than men psychologically and they are meant to be.
Now, as I said, the dark forces are, of course, magnifying all these differences. They are looking at how women react to sex, they are trying to magnify this so women feel more used, blame the man. There are two beasts here that are also part of this picture. One is, and it is not just about sex, it is about many things, that women have for a long time been the passive sex. And they have, in order to cope with this psychologically, created a collective beast that blames men for many different things. Because as you will see, people who are suppressed can gain some relief by blaming their oppressors. This is not just for women, but because women have been so suppressed by men, they have created this beast that blames men.
And then men have also created a beast where they want to be free and independent and able to do whatever they want to do. They have created a beast that is very sensitive to being blamed. You just look at the wording in the question that opens up these merciless projections. Well, are they merciless or is it just that the beast that affects men sees them as such?
You see here, this is a very old pattern between the sexes. It is not just a matter of sex, it is a matter of the interaction between men and women in a patriarchal culture that suppresses women. If you really want to get beyond this, you need to look beyond the sex and look at the relationship as a whole and work on these subconscious selves that you have personally taken on as part of the culture and be willing to free yourself from them. And then when you have made some progress towards that, you need to come to a point where you decide, okay, we need to talk openly about this. Not only about sex, but our experience of the relationship. And the more open you can be at talking about it, the more you can resolve it. Now here, of course, I already sense the reaction from the collective consciousness where men will say, oh, this is just too much trouble. If you are willing to look at that beast also, then you can overcome that and free yourself from it.
And of course, there is a collective reaction from the women that, oh, men are always ignoring us. They never want to listen to us. Again, women need to overcome this so you can have a more free communication.
Again, I am not here trying to blame anybody. I am just trying to outline that many, many couples have been caught up in this dynamic that is a very old dynamic. And the fallen ones are loving this. They are enjoying watching two people have conflicts over sex or whatever else it may be. And the effect of this is—as we have said before, the masculine expansive force and the feminine contracting force are actually complementary—but because of these projections from the fallen beings, because of the creation of the patriarchal culture, they oppose each other instead of complementing each other.
And it will take considerable work to get to a point where you can complement each other instead of falling into this pattern of competing or opposing.
You will see here also that there is a very subtle reaction in men because, as I said, it is indisputable that historically women have been the suppressed sex.
There is a reaction in men that they do not want to be blamed, that women are always blaming us. But you see, when you react like this, what are you doing? You are blaming women for blaming you. And where does it lead? Well, nowhere good. You have to say, if you are a man, if you see this as a problem, always start working on yourself first, then see where that leads you. Because what have we said so many times? The universe is a mirror. What you project out will be returned back to you. If you feel that women are blaming you while you do not realize that you are subconsciously blaming women for blaming you, you are actually saying to the cosmic sphere, you want more being blamed. That would be the place to start and then go from there. It will take work. But on the other hand, what are you? What have we said so many times? You are forerunners for a shift in consciousness. And for the forerunners, it is always harder to carve a trail through the jungle, whereas those who come after you find it much easier because you have already cleared the space.
But if you feel strongly about a topic like this, it is most likely because it is part of your Divine plan that you work on this in yourself and therefore, open up so that other men can follow you and work towards a more constructive relationship between men and women.
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