Question: What is the spiritual definition of narcissism and what is the spiritual background and reason a person becomes a narcissist? Is narcissism an exclusive characteristic of fallen beings or are there non-fallen beings who are narcissists as well?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2025 Korean Conference.
To begin with the last question, there are many that are not fallen beings that are narcissists, that have narcissistic personality traits. And the reason for this is quite simple. Narcissism is really the main characteristic of the ego. We have talked about how at the 48th level you see yourself as a connected being, when you go to the 47th level you lose that sense of connection. Therefore, you create the ego to compensate for the loss that you feel, and the ego is now charged with making you, as a separate being, feel good, whatever definition of “good” you might have.
There are two main ways of seeking to deal with this sense of loss. One is that you can become a passive person who follows the collective consciousness, who does not seek to acquire a strong individuality or a strong position in society. This is what you see in many people on earth, that they are passive, they are, just like we have said before, jellyfish flowing with the ocean currents in the collective consciousness.
The other way of dealing with the sense of loss is that you seek to strengthen your separate self, to elevate the separate self to a higher status, a special status. In other words, you have a sense of loss, one way to deal with it is to deny your potential as a self and therefore, you have the excuse: “Oh I cannot do anything special, I just do what everybody else is doing.” The other is that you seek to become special because you might even think that this will either help you feel better or help you come back into a sense of connectedness or enter the kingdom of heaven or whatever people believe, and you think this can be achieved by elevating the separate self. The ones who become passive are the ones who have fallen under the spell of the fallen beings who want to control people. The ones who become active are the ones who believe in the lie of the fallen beings, which is that they can elevate the separate self to such a superior status that God has to make it immortal and even allow it to enter heaven and as we have said before, that cannot be done.
You see indeed, many people on earth who have gone into this attempt to elevate their separate selves to having a special status in society. And not all of them are fallen beings even though some are, but relatively few in physical embodiment are fallen beings. There are many more narcissists that are original inhabitants and even some avatars who have gone into this. You could say, from a certain perspective, you can say that those who seek to elevate the separate selves, there is a slightly higher potential that they could come to a point where they see the futility of this, they have just had enough of this, they see the vanity of it and therefore, they reach for a more genuine approach which is the spiritual path. Those who are passive can remain passive for many lifetimes, but they can also make some progress if they follow the golden rule and seek to live by the golden rule, they can raise their consciousness and get closer to the 47th level, but they also might be inspired to re-establish that connection.
Either way can work, but for some people, the faster way is to actually elevate the self. You might say that some narcissists are getting closer to making the switch and discovering a genuine path, but there are also some narcissists that are simply digging themselves into a deeper and deeper hole because they believe in the lie of the fallen beings, that the self can be elevated to some ultimate status by fulfilling conditions in this world. You could say the essence of narcissism is you are seeking to raise your separate self to some ultimate status by fulfilling conditions defined in this world.
This is, of course as we have said, an impossible quest, which can never lead you to feel peace of mind, to feel fulfilled. There will always be something more you can achieve for the separate self until you see the futility and the vanity of the entire quest to elevate the separate self.
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