The sense of ownership associated with family

Question: I think there is a mass conviction that the death of a loved one, a dear loved one, is a great and irreparable grief. And we need to learn to disconnect ourselves from this belief in such a way as to replace the wrong belief with the right one. There are also big losses of the relatives and friends who are still in embodiment. I experienced this fear and pain in myself. While studying the teachings of the ascended masters, I was still unable to deal with this situation, due to some kind of belief that I still cannot see. I was not ready for this situation and when it happened, I was not in harmony and love. What beliefs behind this terrible suffering do people have on this dense planet Earth?

Answer from the Ascended Master Jesus through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2020 Webinar – Increasing Your Christ Discernment.

Well, this is the belief that, again, originated with the fallen beings. And it can be seen out-pictured by many of the leaders of the past. You see a leader who has set himself or herself up as being this ultimate authority as a dictator, being almost revered by the people as a god. Yet this person knows that even though the people might think he is a god, while he is still in a mortal body, and there will come a point where that body can no longer sustain its life and he will die. But he is not satisfied with having reached this position just for one lifetime. So he wants to leave a legacy. And as part of that legacy, he wants the people to be so attached to him, that they will feel his death as an irreparable loss, that they will grieve over for a long time to come. This is just all building up the ego and a sense of being special. This is how it all started.

But it has also been reinforced by the belief that has again been spread by the fallen beings and you can find it in people’s common talk: “My parents were so and so”, “My children are doing this or that”. You all talk about my parents, my children, my brothers, my sisters. There is a certain sense of ownership associated with families. And it is inevitable as you grow up on a planet like this that you take this on to some degree. Of course, there are some cultures that have it to a higher degree than others, where they almost worship the family, where the family structure is considered to be the most important aspect of people’s lives.

Now, as you walk the spiritual path and reach the higher levels of Christhood then you realize, of course, that you are a spiritual being. You have lived many, many lifetimes on earth. You have not always had the same parents or the same siblings that you have in this lifetime or the same children that you have in this lifetime. These are not your parents, your children, you do not belong to them. And they do not belong to you. It is this sense of ownership that you can begin to question. And then you can realize that you are not defined by your family, and you have a right of course, to move beyond your family. And you will have to in order to manifest Christhood and express Christhood. You cannot stay within the confines of what your family considers normal.

Now, another factor in this is, of course especially in the Western world where reincarnation has been denied since the Catholic Church banded it as heresy in 553. So, you have this very deep trauma associated with death, you only have one lifetime, you only have one chance to secure your salvation. And after you die, you will be gone forever from this planet, you will either go to heaven or you will go to hell. This projects t that when your parents die, you will never see them again. And of course, in the materialistic culture that has sprung up, your parents will cease to exist when they die—you will cease to exist when you die. And how could there not be a sense of loss associated with a loss of awareness and a loss of identity? Which is the most precious gift that you have, your individual awareness. So again, if you feel you need to, you can read some of the many books about near-death experiences.

So many people have now witnessed that their body died, but they did not cease to exist, they continued a life in another realm. Many of these people have come back. And they have explained how there is no sorrow, for those who die. They are not grieving that they are not alive anymore. They often feel relieved. They are enveloped in love, they meet their past relatives or their spiritual guides, and they are in a higher realm that is much more enjoyable than what they had on earth. You do not need to grieve for their sake, because they are not losing anything by not being alive.

And when you realize this, you are realizing: “Well, what are you grieving for?” In many cases, you are grieving, not because you personally feel grief, not because your parents benefit from the grief, but because your culture has created this idea that you are supposed to show your grief because this shows how much you loved your parents. And if you do not then you will be condemned. And so why are you grieving? In order to uphold some image that is demanded of you in your culture. And when you begin to see this, you can begin to let it go. You can use our tools to expose these selves and just say: “Enough of this. I’m letting this die”.


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