The self that drives you to change yourself

Question: In the process of looking at my separate selves, I had discovered that when something comes up, I have another separate self that feels like it has to always do something about that self. Ironically, this keeps me from actually seeing the separate self, I want to see. I know in another answer, the ascended masters have talked about looking at a self in a non-obsessive way. But I find it very difficult to do that, because the selves I’m looking at, are painful. And so of course, I’ll want to do something about these selves, I’m wondering if they have any advice for looking at the self that wants to always look at selves, or perhaps there is a way to temporarily neutralize that self and deal with it later. So I can see the more painful selves first.

Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary  through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2021 Webinar for Russia – Overcoming the consciousness of Superiority and the Sense of Being Unwhole, Traumatized and Focused Outside Oneself.

Well, in order to really make use of the teaching about the separate selves, you need to be willing to step back and look at what comes up in your consciousness. And it may be that you have a certain self, a certain sense that there are certain selves to work on that might be very painful, but then this other self comes in and disturbs the process. But this is because in your outer mind, you have locked yourself on a certain approach.

My advice is that the self that disturbs you—disturbs the process—this is the self you should work on first. In other words, use the tools to get a look at that self to come to see why. And then seek to dissolve that self. Once you have dissolved that self, it becomes easier to look at other selves.

There are many scenarios that can come into play, because over many lifetimes, you might have been willing to work on your psychology, use various spiritual tools, will use various psychological tools. There are certain students that have built this momentum of being willing to change themselves. But it can also become unbalanced to the point where you become obsessive-compulsive about changing yourself, you become so eager in an unbalanced way to change yourself, that you are actually creating a self that drives you to change yourself.

And of course, this is not a process that will take you beyond a certain level, you need to simply step back, look at that reaction, realize it comes from a self and then look at that self and seek to resolve that self—seek to find that decision you made.

There are many people who for many lifetimes have been embodied in various religions, where you have this idea that you have either sinned, or you have made karma in past lives. And you need to compensate for this by doing something in this life. And so various selves have been created as a result of this almost obsessive-compulsive need to compensate for your past mistakes. And it can also be a sincere desire to change that is taken into an unbalanced state and therefore even results in the creation of a self that drives you.

It really is the hope of the ascended masters that you can use these tools that we have given to come to a point that the messenger has actually talked about, where you become at peace with being who you are. You do not go into the illusion that now you have reached some ultimate state of consciousness, that you are enlightened or whatever you accepted.

You will be working on your psychology for as long as you are in embodiment. But you are not feeling any compulsion. You are not feeling any lack. You are not blaming yourself, you are simply accepting that you are at a certain level of consciousness right now, which is perfectly acceptable. And you know that you are always open to the next self coming up that you need to see that will take you to another level. But there is no reason to feel any lack or dissatisfaction you are at peace with being where you are on your path.

This is what we hope you can accomplish. And there are some students that have built various selves that work against this, but then use the tools to look at those selves and deal with them first, so you can have a more relaxed approach to other selves. The more at peace, the more relaxed you can be about the process, the easier it will be to deal with very painful selves or selves that are based on these deep emotions and deep traumas.


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