Question: If you have a challenging relationship with a family member but talking about it with them is often not productive, am I creating karma by discussing this relationship with a friend, sometimes venting about it and sometimes asking for their insights?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given at a conference in Albuquerque (USA) in 2018.
Well, my beloved, it depends somewhat on the state of mind from which you are talking. If you are in a greatly agitated, disturbed state of mind, if you have a lot of anger and a lot of fear then yes, you will create karma by talking to a friend about it. But you will also create karma, in a sense, by having the anger in your four lower bodies, so it is better then, to look at yourself and look at why your reaction is extreme or unbalanced and seek to resolve the psychology behind it.
On the other hand, I do not want to give you the impression that you cannot or should not talk about issues in your life with your friends. Because many times, it is not only helpful for you to resolve certain things, it also helps you to just feel better by relieving some of the pressure and of course you should feel free to talk.
I’m only pointing out that if you go into a very strong reaction of anger or blame then it is better to work on the psychology behind it. But otherwise, just feel free to talk to your friends about the issues in your life and quite frankly, if you’re not severely unbalanced, don’t worry about making karma by talking to people because that many times restricts you so that you start suppressing things instead of bringing them to the surface where you can see and deal with them.
There are many, many examples of what Gautama Buddha talked about, religious spiritual people who have been obsessed with following the rules. You can even see spiritual students even ascended masters students, who have been so obsessed with, for example, as was said in the previous dispensation, not ever engaging in CCJ, criticism condemnation and judgment, that they thought they should never talk about any issue or any problem they had.
This, of course, causes people to go into a state of suppressing their problems and it only builds pressure and prolongs the time before you can resolve them. So again, when you don’t have a malicious intent, when you are not severely unbalanced, don’t be too concerned about these things. Don’t seek to go into this constant judgement of yourself: “Am I doing the right thing? Should I be doing this? Should I be doing that?” Just let things flow. Talk about the things with your friends that you need to talk about and don’t condemn yourself for it.
Copyright © 2018 Kim Michaels