Question: I have heard that it is difficult for avatars to find romantic partners. As for me, I alternate between days when I wish I were in a relationship and days when I enjoy the freedom and independence of being single. How do I tune into my Divine plan and know whether I am meant to be single or in a relationship in this life? How do I get over feelings for someone I should not have feelings for? Is it all about resolving psychology and letting the separate selves die?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2026 Lithuania Conference.
Well, the short answer is yes. It is all about psychology and letting the separate selves die. You need to look at, first of all, you look at this question, and you can see you have a division in your mind. Sometimes you wish you were in a relationship, other times you enjoy being single. Well, you cannot have both, right?
You have to find out what do you want more, and then look at, do you have a view of relationships that makes you feel like you are giving up something by being in a relationship, you lose something, or you do not want to accommodate another person. Because in that case you need to work on this and decide: “Do I have a subconscious self that I can resolve so I can be in a relationship and not have these divisions in my psyche about it? Or do I simply want to decide: I am not going to be in a relationship.?” As long as you have that division, you are in a sense subconsciously resisting finding a partner. And thereby you are also resisting your Divine plan. I am not saying it is in your Divine plan to have a partner, but if it is and you have the division, how will you recognize that partner when you meet him or her? You could miss the opportunity.
On the other hand, if it is in your Divine plan to be single, it would be better for you to know it and therefore, be at peace with being single, but how will you know? You see, if you look at your Divine plan, what have we said so many times? A big part of your Divine plan is resolving psychology. By the very fact that you have this question, you can reason it is part of my Divine plan to resolve my psychological issues concerning relationships, and therefore, you focus on doing that. You see what I am trying to say here? Your question implies that you think there is up there in your I AM Presence, there is this plan for your life, and it is set in stone. This is how it is. This is what you are supposed to do. And if you could just tune into that, then you would know and then you will be at peace in going into a relationship or not going into a relationship.
But you see what I am saying is part of your Divine plan is to resolve the psychology. And as long as you have not resolved the psychology, you will not be able to see whether it is in your Divine plan to have a relationship or not, because the unresolved psychology blocks that vision, but the unresolved psychology is part of your Divine plan. That is why I am saying it would not be productive, for example, if I as an outside force told you: “Oh yeah, it is in your Divine plan to have a relationship, go find somebody. Go on this internet dating site and get it over with”. Because you need to discover this from within, but you will not discover it until the psychology is resolved.
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