Question: I am working on totally letting go of any attachments to changing my mother. I sense that she was there in my birth trauma and I feel she is either a fallen being or deep in the fallen consciousness. She is a benevolent narcissist and unlike my father who is very dark and where it is very obvious, she is extremely deceptive and very hard to discern so that many in my family fall for her manipulations without even realizing it and it took me many years to see through it. My conclusion is that sometimes she does show what seems like genuine care or recognizing something spiritual but the vibration is off and it always confused me and where I then go into giving excessive sympathy or doubt myself. I would appreciate any help in this confusion and is the excessive sympathy coming from a separate self and how to cut the karmic tie.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2025 New Year Webinar.
The first thing you need to recognize here is that when we talk about fallen beings, we are often seeking to help you see the fallen beings, see them for what they are and therefore, we use more extreme examples of the fallen beings. It is easier to see for example some dictator who has killed millions of people as a fallen being. But what we have also said is there are of course different levels of fallen beings. There are those who are in the total state of rebellion against God. There are others who fell because they followed the more extreme fallen beings. They are not as malicious as the more aggressive fallen beings. This is why we have talked recently about the benevolent narcissists. This is one thing. The other thing you need to recognize is that when you are talking about a fallen being in embodiment then that being will have some human qualities. You will see that even some of the worst dictators in history could have people they treated with love and affection. And this of course is for the more aggressive fallen beings, part of the deception. But for those who are less aggressive it is simply because either they never descended to the extremes of the fallen consciousness or they have started to grow out of it and therefore, they have acquired what we might call human qualities.
For example, we have said when you go below the 48th level of consciousness you go into separation. The majority of people on earth are in the consciousness of separation. They are below the 48th level. But this does not mean they are evil or aggressive people. You have to go quite far below the 48th level before people become openly evil or aggressive. This means that there is a spectrum below the 48th level of consciousness into the 20s that is just what we can call regular human beings. And they have certain qualities and this includes having love for their children, caring for other people. But it is of course seen from the separate state of consciousness, the separate selves. But they have many qualities that are what you call normal human qualities. When a fallen beings starts growing from this into this level of what we can call human consciousness or human qualities it takes on some of this. But of course, this does not mean that that being has completely escaped the fallen consciousness. And that is why it can have a we might say dual personality or Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality where it can have both of these qualities.
And this is what you are obviously sensing. What you run into here is partly that the fallen beings have created these collective entities but also that human beings have created these collective entities that says: “Oh, you should have sympathy for others. You should be kind to others and especially when they are kind to you.” And I am not saying that you should not be kind. But what I am saying is that to return to the question is, is the excessive sympathy coming from a separate self? Well, anything excessive always comes from a separate self. And it is most likely a self that is based on this idea that: Oh, when people are nice, you should be nice. You should show them sympathy. So the first thing you can do is realize that you have a tendency to react to your mother based on some separate selves. You can use our tools and to look at these selves and go after them. When you overcome these separate selves, you will increase your Christ discernment. And therefore, you will see that even if you recognize that your mother is a fallen being, you do not have to treat her as if she was some kind of mini Hitler. But on the other hand, you do not need to let her manipulate you. And one of the ways she will try to manipulate you is through sympathy, getting sympathy, or also trying to appear spiritual. There are many fallen beings who, as I said, are starting to move up in consciousness, overcoming the obviously evil or aggressive state, who can be interested in spirituality. There are, as we have said before, false gurus who appear to be very spiritual, very knowledgeable, very wise, and even have special abilities to produce various phenomena. This is where you need Christ discernment. But the other thing you can do is look at yourself and ask yourself, why did you choose to embody with your mother in this lifetime, given the impact she had on your birth trauma? Was it not because you wanted to overcome the birth trauma? You need to obviously use our tools to do that. But you also, in relation to your mother, need to recognize that no matter what your mother did in a situation with a birth trauma, what is in your Divine Plan is that you become free of her. And that means, including other things, forgiving her unconditionally. And there is a tendency for people to think that: “Oh, but in order for me to forgive people, they have to see what they did and regret it.” Well, that is what you cannot allow yourself to think when you are dealing with fallen beings. Because it may not be possible for your mother to do that in this lifetime. And if you want to make your ascension in this lifetime, you cannot wait for your mother to be ready, perhaps in many lifetimes. And therefore, you just have to forgive, not to set her free, but to set yourself free.
And then you can, when you reach that stage, look more generally at what is your reaction to the fallen beings in general. Because as an avatar, when you have been attacked by fallen beings, you have a reaction to them, you have a certain view of them. And you need to simply come to a point where you have overcome all attachments either way. Do you have a desire to reform them, to help them, to save them, to make them see what they are doing? If you are to ascend after this lifetime, you need to overcome all of that. Because otherwise, your ascension will depend on the choices made by fallen beings and that is not a recommendable position to be in.
Truly, it is a matter of realizing that, despite the outer facade, despite the human characteristics that fallen beings might have, it is really a matter of reading their vibration. And then realizing that it is a lower vibration than what you need in order to ascend and therefore, you need to ultimately free yourself from any attachments. It does not even mean that you have to break off physical contact with your mother. But you have to free yourself so that you can be around her without reacting, without being pulled into sympathy, without being manipulated, without feeling obligated, without wanting anything from her. And of course, she will feel it if you become free. And she will accuse you of not caring, not loving her, not being a good child, and so forth. But truly, you need to overcome all of that in order to be free.
Now, it may not be in your Divine plan to ascend after this lifetime. But still, if you are to help Saint Germain manifest the golden age, you can do so much better if you break ties with fallen beings. Again, it is a matter of being able to be at peace with being around fallen beings in this embodiment, even in future embodiments. But if you can be free in this embodiment, you will not attract them, most likely in coming embodiments.
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