Question: I have noticed that in love relationships there tends to be a loss of energy and vitality over time in both partners and eventually there is a drop in sexual desire in the relationship. Why is it that this desire was there in the beginning but after some time, around three years for example, it appears as if one of the partners, often the woman, does not have much interest in sexual activities. Is it a sign that a relationship is not growing or that the psychology was not resolved, or is it more a normal transition in a relationship? Because I feel that I have some sexual desires to explore in this life and I do not want to switch relationships every 3 years to rekindle the spark. What can you do to keep that sexual desire alive?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2024 New Year webinar
Well, there are of course different forms of relationships depending on the level of awareness of the people. But it is a very common theme in all relationships that the sexual desire is driven by a subconscious desire to blend your energies, blend your energy field, with the other person. This is, in many cases, based on that each person has a certain imbalance in their own energy field between male and female energies. By having sexual activity, you absorb some of the energy from the other person and it balances your own energy field. It is actually natural that after some time you would have blended your energy fields to a certain degree where you both have absorbed enough energy from the other that you are more balanced. And then it is natural that the sexual desire diminishes, at least somewhat.
It is, of course, also a common theme in relationships that the woman loses sexual desire faster than the man and often, in general, except for the beginning phases of the relationship, has a lower sexual desire than men. And there is no real easy way out of this other than attempting to communicate and reach some kind of consensus where you agree to satisfy each other’s sexual desires in a way that both of you can live with. Many couples, of course, fail to discuss this. They are not able to talk about it in a neutral way.
What you can do if you are the person who has the greater sexual desire is that you can, first of all, examine your sexual desire. You can see whether it is driven by lower forces. As we have said before, many men are addicted to sex because they are influenced, their auras are invaded by forces in the emotional realm that are seeking to inflate the sexual desire in order to steal people’s energy. And this is, of course, what you see that if people are driven by these lower forces to have sex, then they are drained of energy. And this causes a loss of energy and, over time, a loss of vitality as well.
What you can do is you can use our decrees and tools to cut yourself off from any ties to the astral plane and, of course, abstain from anything that artificially inflates your sexual desires such as pornography. And therefore, you can balance your own sexual desire by balancing the flow of energy through your base chakra – that instead of the energies in the base chakra going out into the sexual organs, they go up through the other chakras.
If you will make an effort to do this, you can balance your own sexual desire, and this will make it easier to reach some kind of consensus with your partner so you can both find a level of sexual activity that you both can live with. But this requires, of course, some communication. And in many cases if the man has an artificially inflated sexual desire, he will feel entitled to have sex, he will feel annoyed and irritated when his female partner does not respond. This will then cause a reaction in her where she feels forced and pushed and this creates a downward spiral. You want to avoid this, and if there is one, break it, and therefore get to a point where you can have a neutral conversation about this and see what kind of consensus you can reach.
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