How to get healthy personal boundaries

Question: What is the cause of and solution for enmeshment trauma which occurs when an individual is raised in an environment where there is a lack of clear emotional boundaries among family members.


Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given at a conference in Washington, D.C. (USA) in 2019.

Well the cause is of course that in past lives you have received traumas that have broken down the boundaries between yourself, your own energy field, your own four lower bodies and those of other people. The fallen beings want to steal your energy, they want to steal people’s energy, and so they try to expose people to such trauma. And also induce in them certain beliefs where they feel like they should be sensitive to other people, you should help all other people, you should give them your energy, that they can steal your energy.

And this they do by breaking down that natural sense of who you are as an individual being, your individual four lower bodies. They violate the boundaries to such an extent that those boundaries are blurred and you cannot make a clear distinction about when it’s appropriate to give other people your energy and when it’s not.

The solution is obviously that you use the tools and teachings to identify these selves and the beliefs behind those selves that makes you think that you should give other people your energy or that you don’t have the right to refuse other people and say no. So you need to use our teachings and recognize that you have a right to be an individual and to grow as an individual without being pulled back by other people because they are stealing your energy.

And you need to come to that point when you make that conscious decision. And this will not happen automatically by getting rid of a certain self. But you may need to get rid of a certain self before you’re able to make the decision, but you need to make that decision: “I will not allow other people to steal my energy. I will not give my energy to other people to the detriment of my own spiritual progress”.

 

Copyright © 2019 Kim Michaels