Question: Say there is a gambling addict among one’s relatives. He is a scourge to the extended family as well as his own family, having stolen from his wife and his adult children to feed his addiction. Could the masters discuss the different courses of action that one could take? One, towards him when he again approaches for money. Two, towards this destitute and long-suffering wife. Three, towards his children who have distanced themselves from the family after giving him money and finding he has not changed. Four, towards his relatives who although reluctant feel compelled to succumb to his frequent begging. More generally, how could an Asian community living in a Western country eradicate this collective beast of gambling and that other beast of feeling compelled to feed destructive behaviors in the name of compassion?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2025 Ukraine Webinar.
Well, if you are an ascended master student, you can use the tools we have given. First of all, you need to recognize that any addict is literally possessed by dark forces in the emotional realm primarily, but also in the mental realm, even to some degree in the identity realm. You can make the calls to the archangels, to Astraea, to Shiva, for the binding and consuming of these forces. Now as we have said before, this does not of course change people’s free will, but it gives them the ability to make choices. You can also make the same calls that those who cannot say no, who will not say no, are set free from the dark forces that are also overpowering them and giving them this unbalanced, unwillingness to say no. And then of course you can seek to work with people to help them see that there is a difference between enabling somebody to continue self-destructing behavior and actual compassion. You are not actually showing compassion towards a person by enabling them to continue their destructive behavior because they are trapped in a self-destructive downward spiral that can only get worse and worse.
You actually show a greater compassion by not enabling them to continue because if you actually look at addictions of any kind, you will see that some addicts have to come to a point where they have gone so far into their self-destructive spiral that they cannot go any further. Some refer to this as hitting rock bottom. And that is the only point where people will turn around—some people. By enabling the person to continue the habit, you are only postponing this turning point. And this is not actually compassion towards the person from a greater perspective. It is born out of their own misunderstanding of what compassion is and their own unwillingness to make a clear decision and say no. Will this work? Well, that cannot be determined until you try. Naturally there is always free will and as there is the free will of the addict, there is the free will of those supporting the addictive behavior. But you need to make the effort and then give people the opportunity. When you have made the effort, you can then make the choice: “I have done enough, I will withdraw from the situation.”
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