Question: How can we avatars attract into life exactly our own person with whom you can live a long period of life? Because not every person on earth is ready to live with an avatar and share the teachings of the ascended masters with him. I have been in the teachings of the ascended masters for five years. I have not been able to start a love relationship with people because I was rejected because of these teachings. Is there any chance to meet the person who will accept me despite the fact that I am a student of the ascended masters?
Answer from Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2023 Easter Webinar
Wow, that is kind of a complex question because, I mean, you could be fastidious and say, well, we obviously need to create a dating service for ascended masters students, right? But that is not really in my divine plan.
I can think back to when I was in the Summit Lighthouse and people had the same issue there. They did not have the teachings about avatars, but many people had found the teachings and gone into them and their spouse had not. Their spouse was not spiritual at all in many cases. Sometimes they were spiritual, they went to something else. But in most cases, the spouse was not spiritual and often came to see it as a threat that they went into the teachings. And this was especially a problem in the Summit because they had much more strict outer requirements for what it means to be a good chela. You know, you had to do all of these outer things. It is what I call a high barrier of entry. It was not everybody who could go into this.
This created a lot of conflicts and there were actually many people that divorced their spouse. And now, they were hoping they would find a spouse who was already in the teachings and they would now have the ideal love relationship because the Summit was big on this concept of twin flames. The dream was, you find your twin flame and then you have the Hollywood romance and it is going to last forever. And I actually saw some couples that were told by the messenger in the Summit that they were twin flames. They got married and they had the same marital problems as every other couple, you know, because people have their psychology. Personally, I do not subscribe to the twin flame concept, but whether you are more spiritually connected or not, you still have an outer psychology that you have to deal with and get rid of.
What I would say here is that in the teachings as the masters have presented them, we do not have all of these outer rules where you are supposed to do this or you are supposed to do that. It should be easier for you to have a relationship with a person who is not in the teachings. But this depends on your approach to the teachings.
I mean, when I was younger, obviously, I was much more what I would call obsessive-compulsive about being in the teachings and walking the spiritual path. I had to do all of these other things and I was much more sort of: “I cannot tolerate this and I cannot tolerate that”. It would have been very difficult for me to have a spouse who was not on the spiritual path, that was not in the teachings. It is not that I do not understand the dynamic, but today I would look at it differently. And I would certainly say that finding a partner in a relationship should be much more of an intuitive thing. And you should be careful not to apply your outer mind to say: “I have to find, because I am in the ascended master teachings, I have to find a partner who is also in the ascended master teachings.”
Because it could very well be that it is in your divine plan to have a relationship with a specific person for whatever reason. It may be that that person will eventually find a spiritual path or it may be that you are meant to learn something from that relationship. And it may not be meant to be a lifelong relationship.
What do I know? I am not saying I know this. I am just saying you should be much more concerned about following your intuition rather than with your outer mind creating limitations for what kind of a partner you can find because that could cause you to miss a part of your own divine plan, which was to have a specific relationship. Many times we choose to put ourselves in a relationship with people because we have something to learn from that relationship. In the Summit they were all talking about karma, karmic relationships. You have karma with somebody you want to be in a relationship with and you can overcome the karma and be free. I look at it more in terms of psychology. You have some psychology that the other person can help you work out and you can also help the other person. I would just be careful about deciding with the outer mind.
I can, of course, say I am not really the best person to say this because I have had four marriages and all of my spouses have been on the spiritual path and in the same spiritual movement or teaching that I was in at the time. Who am I to say you should not want that? I understand that. But I will also say that I am in my fourth marriage, so there were three of them that lasted a certain time and then ended. I look at that with peace of mind because I feel it was part of my divine plan and I learned something and grew from all relationships and I saw something in myself as a result of every relationship. I do not look at it, to find a love relationship where you can live happily ever after because I can see from experience there is no happily ever after because in a relationship both people will have that psychology and you always have to work that out. You have to be willing to work that out .And as I said I saw people in the Summit who really thought: “We are twin flames, we should never have any conflicts in our marriage” and then when they had it, it became very difficult for them to deal with it because their instinctive approach to it was denial: “Let us just ignore it and hope it goes away because we should not have this problem.”
We cannot really acknowledge it and, of course, you can only deal with the problem if you acknowledge it. I think that it is very important to have that perspective, that there is always something that you need to learn from a relationship, that you need to see in yourself from a relationship. First of all, if you have a partner who is in the teachings, it is not going to make your psychological issues go away and second of all, it is not going to make it easier for you to see them, necessarily. It could, if you can talk about it in a different way but still you have to be willing to see it in yourself. And of course, that is the hard part for all of us to see in ourselves what we cannot see.
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