How can we help our adult children to deal with difficult situations?

Question: I have a 21 year old son who is in his fourth year in medical school who has suddenly lost interest in the field of medicine with just two years more to complete the course. He complains of headaches and insomnia, and loss of interest in the field of medicine, and therefore wants a new experience to study mathematics. Is he following his divine plan or is it because of a trauma and separate selves from past lives and projections from forces of death and hell, causing him to abort the medical course? And how can he be helped?


 Answer from Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2020 Webinar – Increasing Your Christ Discernment.

Now I’m reading this question because it’s actually a, it’s an example of a question that’s a little bit personal, where the masters would not want to say, for example: “Yes, this is part of his divine plan”, or “No, this is not part of his divine plan”. Because your divine plan is something that you need to sense from within, and you are really the only one who can do it. But I’m reading it because I feel that the masters want me to make some comments. So, what I would say when I hear this, the first thing that comes to my mind is: Here’s a 21 year old person who was in his fourth year of medical school, that means he started when he was 17, or 18 years old, studying medicine, which is a very intense study. So no doubt he went to school up until that point in lower levels of school. So maybe he is just very young and maybe he needs to have some more time to mature. Maybe he needs to do something else for a while. It doesn’t mean he couldn’t come back to it.

And what I would also question is, why has he lost interest in the field? Is it possibly because he’s seen the limitations of traditional medicine? Or is it because he feels that this really isn’t what he expected it to be? I would also consider looking at what is the context in which he’s grown up? What is the attitude in his family towards studies in general? Has he felt a certain pressure to become a doctor, to go into medical school? And has it just caused him to do something that really wasn’t part of his divine plan? And now he’s reached a point where he realizes that it isn’t what he is meant to do. I’m not saying this is a final answer, I’m just saying these are questions that I would consider if I was in a situation.

Headache and insomnia, loss of interest. It could be a sign that he is overworked, that he’s stressed out, that he’s burned out, that it’s simply too overwhelming for him. It could also be a deeper issue where he feels that this really isn’t what he’s supposed to be doing and it’s become too much of a strain to suppress this.

So could it be trauma and separate selves from past lives? Yeah, of course it could be. But then the question is, is he open to ascended master teachings, is he open to giving decrees for protection or could you do it for him and maybe see an effect of that? The same with forces of death and hell, it could be projections, but again, you can give calls for that protection.

Then the final sentence in the question is: How can he be helped? Well, that’s why I would say well I understand that as a mother or father, you want to help your children. But sometimes you have to consider what does that mean to you? What exactly do you mean, when you say that my child should be helped? What are you basing that on? What’s your evaluation of the situation? How are you looking at it? And is there possibly something in the way you look at it, that could be a result of your programming, your upbringing or your separate selves and you could resolve this? You can also ask the question, does he need to be helped? And maybe he does, I’m not saying he doesn’t, but then it would be a matter of how well can you communicate with him? How free is your conversations? Can you talk to him about this? Are you at a point where you are able to help him? Are you open and neutral to talking to him, hearing about his issues and trying to find out and understand what’s really going on? Because if you have decided with your outer mind that him being helped means he has to go back to his studies and complete his studies, that may not be the help he really needs. He may need someone who will listen to him who will try to understand what he’s feeling and maybe that will be enough for him to talk through it and work through it. Or maybe it won’t, maybe it will help him gain a greater resolve that he’s going to go in another direction? I don’t know. There isn’t a final answer. I’m just saying, this is what comes to me that I would consider in a situation like this.

 

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