Question: How can we recognize the line between offering help, showing a different way or being a light for someone versus interfering with their free will by trying to help too much to alleviate the suffering they chose.
Answer from the Ascended Master Jesus through Kim Michaels. This answer was given at a conference in Washington, D.C. (USA) in 2019.
Well, the primary way would be to ask yourself whether you are neutral about that person. Can you be in a neutral state of mind? And if you cannot be in a neutral state of mind it’s because you have a separate self. And as we have said, the pattern is: you desire to have a certain state of mind, but the separate self believes that in order to achieve that state of mind you have to do something outside, you have to change something in the world or change other people. Many, many people, for example, who are engaged in Christian charity, are attempting to change other people in order to get a certain state of mind where they can feel that they are surely good Christians and therefore they will be saved. What we have given you is the tools where we say that kind of feeling comes from a separate self. And the way to get over that feeling is not to change something outside yourself, but to let the self die.
Basically, you can say that, when you don’t have a separate self that is involved with a situation, you are spontaneously setting the other person free to respond or not respond as they want. And if the people do not respond, you just move on. You just simply say, “Well, I cannot help that person. So let me not focus my time and attention on it, but move on to find someone that I can help.” But, there can come other stages of this where you actually come to the realization that you cannot really help anyone in the sense that you are doing something for them or you are changing them. You can offer them something, you can show them an example, you can share with them your own insights and experiences, but beyond that, you set them completely free. And this means that you come to a state of Buddhic non-attachment where you disassociate an action from the results. In other words, you are taking an action that has the potential to help other people. But once you have taken the action, you set it free.
So whether it actually helps other people, whether it actually changes anything or achieves any result, you are still at peace about it, because you know you have taken the action, you have done the best you could. And you are therefore setting the action free to produce a result or not produce a result. This is the way to act without making karma of any kind. It is the way that Kuan Yin has sometimes described as the “nothing done no thing undone” state of mind.
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