Helping others from the neutral state of mind

Question: Regarding free will, as I understood, we are in no way to tell other free-will beings what to think and what to do, since it would apply suggestion/influence on what to think and how to make a decision. However, I have been reading old questions and answers, and when it was asked about the astral plane Jesus sometimes had a direct answer, what to do and how to do it as in: “You need to do this.” To do that or do this. The question is if someone asks you directly can you answer them what they should do? Or simply use neutral language and attitude to present them information and leave should, need, must, it is better for you and such words and phrases out since they might apply subtle suggestions on what to do. I understand it is not about the language per se, but about the attitude and intention. What does Jesus say about this?  

Answer by Ascended Master Jesus through Kim Michaels, given at a conference in Estonia 2019.

It is very much a matter of looking at the intent behind what you are saying to other people. You will see that there are many, many people in the world who so identified with their external selves that they feel a compulsion to change other people, or they have a need for power, they want to have power over other people or it can be many other things—they want validation, they do not want to be ignored—many, many motivations that people have in these separate selves.

If you are acting from a separate self that is driving you to tell other people what to do because you want to gain some kind of, let us call it an advantage, that your separate self sees that it needs—it may even be that your separate self thinks it is working for a better world, and this involves telling other people what to do so you can manifest that better world—it is still a need that the separate self has to produce a certain outcome to get validation. In that case you are interfering with other people’s free will.

But if they are asking you for help, and if you are in as neutral state of mind as possible, there is no problem telling people you need to do this or you should do this.  Let us not get hung up on words. But what you can do of course, is try to adopt a more neutral language where you make it clear to people that whatever you do has a certain consequence.

You can say: “Well, what is it you want to accomplish here in this situation?” And then they say: “Well, I want to accomplish this.” And then you can say: “Well, in order to accomplish that, you need to do such and such.” You are not interfering with their free will as such, but you are making it clear to them that if you want a certain result you have to take certain steps to get there. And this is not interfering with people’s free will, especially not when they ask you for advice.

But what you basically need to do is to look at yourself. Am I neutral when I give other people advice or am I acting from a separate self? But if you find that there is some kind of tension, if you feel some kind of compulsion to tell other people certain things, then you know it is coming from a separate self. And you use the tools, you work on that to become as neutral as possible.

You will see that any kind of therapist, any kind of advisor, it is recognized in the world that the more neutral they are the better advice they can give. And the same, of course, applies to you helping other people answering their questions and so on. As an ascended master I have overcome all of these human idiosyncrasies and separate selves. I do not have any intention as such. I would, of course, like to help people be free of whatever limits them and causes them to suffer. But even that, I recognize that they have the free will to create whatever condition they want.

You could say that when you give people advice, you can also look at how attached are you to getting a certain response from them. And if you find that you are attached to them reacting a certain way or following your advice, for example, you can look again for the separate self that is causing this. Because, really, you want to get to a point where you are neutral when you give the advice and you can remain neutral no matter what people do with it.

And you will see that this is, of course, more difficult with people who are close to you because many times there is a mechanism that comes in. For example, with your children you feel responsible for your children and you want to help them, and so it becomes much easier to go into this reaction where you are not neutral, you want them to react a certain way. But this again comes from a separate self. It may come from a separate self that relates to how you see yourself as a parent and what you feel you should accomplish as a parent. There can be so many pressures on people in more close relationships to get a certain result. And this then prevents you to be neutral. Strive for neutrality, and strive to maintain that neutrality regardless of what other people do with the advice you are giving them.


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