Question: I have recently met a person who I feel I can have a long-term relationship with, but in this Muslim and traditional culture, going through a marriage process is horrendous and it is like passing through the gates of hell. It is all about the control of the male gatekeepers who think they own the women and who have control over the paperwork of the marriage. It is not my first marriage and I have been through it before.
I am wondering because we have limited time, energy and attention and that it should be spent wisely and given that most of my family members have the fallen consciousness, I am thinking to keep my partnership secret and focus on other things instead of taking the full package that comes with marriage in this place. I do not want to engage with my family members’ ego games anymore. I am done and I want to move on. I would appreciate any insight regarding moving on where they still have to be involved in paperwork. And it might be a separate self that is attached to a certain outcome or that it is just not worth giving it a try in this messy place where I can still live in secret.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2023 American webinar.
Well, you will see that there are many of the more modern nations where marriage has started to fade in importance. And it is clear that even in Muslim countries this will also happen in the coming decades. Partly because of the conditions that you mentioned that are associated with marriage in not only Muslim countries but other countries based on these monotheistic male dominated patriarchal religions.
There is certainly many people in the modern countries who have chosen to live together or have a relationship without being married. And this is of course something, as I said, that will happen more and more even in the more traditional male dominated countries. If you feel it is feasible you can certainly do that. In terms of keeping the relationship a secret, well this might be more difficult but this is something you need to gradually work with. You need to then look at why you want to keep it secret, why you cannot openly live together without being married. This obviously goes against social and cultural and religious norms but nevertheless you might consider whether you have some selves that make you reluctant to do this and wanting to keep it a secret. You might consider whether it is realistic to keep it a secret and many of these questions. What I am saying is that you need to look at this as a process. You cannot expect that you will have the final view of it today. I am not intending to give you a final view because this is something that is part of your divine plan, part of your growth process, part of your Christhood that you must gradually evolve to a higher and higher view of this.
What we can say is of course that the situation is both a challenge but also a tremendous opportunity to come to see any subconscious selves that you have and gradually let go of them. And if you engage in this opportunity, use the teachings we have, you can make tremendous progress. You can especially make use of the teachings on the primal self because there are people who have not necessarily the primal self but certainly many selves associated with it based on being condemned according to these social or religious norms in these very close-minded societies. Many avatars have received a primal self or the cosmic birth trauma as a result of being condemned by society because they did not live up to the norms. You have an opportunity here to let go of these selves and then you will see that if you make use of the teachings we have given, in a few years your view of the entire situation will change dramatically and you will feel much more free. In dealing with the situation.
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