Question: There is a current tendency that men and women become more and more equal in society and at home, which I personally like, but it seems that in some cases there has been a misunderstanding of what gender equality actually means and it has been taken too far.
There are also attempts to bring back old gender roles where men are dominant and make the decisions and women just say “yes dear”, never questioning anything. Obviously, that also is not balanced.
There is someone who teaches that women should give all their money to their husbands and let them worry about all bills and expenses because it is not feminine to deal with such difficult things. She also suggests women make their own monthly budget for their personal expenses, which husbands should then pay to their wife.
For me, it feels like when a woman is put in a child’s position where she does not have to take an adult responsibility. Could the masters please explain what is a balanced mature relationship between a man and a woman and balanced use of masculine and feminine energy for both sexes?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2022 Webinar for America – The Resurrection of Democracy.
Well, not so long ago we gave an entire conference on the relationship between men and women. I admonish you to go and find that and make use of those dictations and teachings. We have over the years given many other teachings as well on this topic. What I would like to comment on here is the idea that women should go back to traditional gender roles.
Now, it is clear, as we have said, that when people are in the duality consciousness they will always go towards extremes and it creates an opposite reaction. You have some people, some women and a few men, who have taken the liberation of women to an extreme, in the extreme feminist movement, and this then creates an opposite extreme of women or men who want women to go back to traditional gender roles where they submit themselves entirely to their husbands and, of course, both are unbalanced.
Men and women need to be equal. It does not mean that they are the same, because when you are in a male body you have actually made more of these selves you have created throughout previous embodiments in a male body. When you are in a female body you activate the selves you created by being in a female body in past lives. You also tie into the collective selves that have been created based on masculine and feminine roles. Not all of these selves are dualistic selves.
There are some differences between men and women, based on not only psychological things, but also the physical body. It is necessary to tune into this and see what that means for you individually, what it means for the two of you in a relationship. There is not a standard way that I can easily say, this is the way it is supposed to be. It is a very individual matter depending on the level of consciousness of the two people, but what you strive for in general is the recognition that you may be in a female body in this embodiment, you may be in a male body in this embodiment, but you have been in the opposite body in many past lives.
Despite the fact that there are physical differences, some psychological differences, there is no difference in the value of men and women. You, as a soul, we might call it as a lifestream, you have been in both male and female bodies, you carry this with you from lifetime to lifetime. To say that, here we have a soul that had reached a certain level of maturity but now it comes into a female body and now it cannot express that maturity, is simply incorrect.
Many of the people who are embodied in female bodies today express their full spiritual maturity that they have built up over many lifetimes in both male and female bodies. There are some women who do not express their full maturity because they are born in a country where they are programmed from an early age with a certain limited female role and they accept this and therefore they limit their potential, but many, many women, certainly in modern democracies, express their full potential. To say that certain things like finances are not female is just an unbalanced view of the female role based on the limited role that women have been assigned for many centuries in several cultures.
You strive for equality, you strive for a recognition that it is not a matter of whether you are a man or a woman, it is a matter of finding out what talents, what momentum, what attainment you have from past lives. Is there one of you that is better at dealing with finances and another who is better at dealing with something else? And then you allow each other to do what you are best at or you can even say: “Well, you are not as good at this so you should actually do it so that you can grow in that area”. But definitely it is a matter of recognizing that there is no inherent difference between men and women in a spiritual, psychological sense. It is really a matter of the attainment and the maturity you have achieved in past lifetimes and, of course, in this one as well.
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