Enjoying life while remaining non-attached

TOPICS: Non-attachment is a non-linear concept – cannot be understood by intellect – cannot know truth – instead of suppressing desires, transcend them – do not seek to force non-attachment – enjoying life in this world without being attached to anything – stages of non-attachment – seek first the kingdom within – feeling incomplete if you don’t have something in this world – defining materialism – the ego is the ultimate materialist – the illusion of scarcity –

Question: Jesus, Will you define materialism and how do we avoid it and remain non-attached? We live in a country with many fine things and is it okay to want a beautiful home and somehow not be attached? Or to want anything and not be attached in some way? Are we not to desire anything but God? Is this the battle between ego and God? I find this confusing. 

Answer from ascended master Jesus through Kim Michaels:

Non-attachment is a concept that cannot be understood by the human intellect. It is a nonlinear concept that is beyond the linear intellect and the dualistic mind.

It is very helpful for a spiritual seeker to come to the realization that here are many spiritual concepts that simply cannot be expressed through words. The reason being that words are linear and they can easily be interpreted (or misinterpreted) by the dualistic mind. Therefore, to fully grasp – meaning internalize – a concept, you need to use the outer teachings only as a springboard for achieving an inner, intuitive experience of truth.

The meaning of this truth is that when the ascended masters give a spiritual teaching, such as the teachings I gave 2,000 years ago, it is never our intention to give an infallible statement of truth. We know full well that no teaching expressed in words can be a compete statement of truth. Truth simply cannot be expressed in words. Truth can only be experienced and internalized. One might say that you cannot know or understand truth; you can only become truth. That is why I said:

Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. (John 14:6)

This statement is the perfect example of what I am talking about. So many Christians – trapped in the dualistic mind – have interpreted this to mean that the outer person of Jesus Christ, or the Christian religion, is the only road to salvation. The true meaning is that the Christ consciousness – which is beyond the linear, dualistic mind – is the only way to know God and God’s truth. And you can know truth only by uniting with, by becoming, that Christ mind. And no man/woman can come to the Father except by uniting with his or her Christ self.

By uniting with your Christ self, you will gradually become non-attached to the things of this world. This will not happen by you willfully repressing your desires for the things of this world. It will happen because your Christ self will help you realize that there is much more to life than the material pleasures. You will then come to desire the things of the spirit more than the things of this world.

This process is a gradual process. You absorb a morsel of truth, and then you allow it to raise your consciousness. That is why I said:

The kingdom of heaven is like unto leaven, which a woman took, and hid in three measures of meal, till the whole was leavened. (Matthew 13:33)

You know that when you put yeast into dough, the yeast needs time to work. If you keep kneading the dough, you will prevent the yeast from working, so you must set the dough aside for a rest. Likewise, you take in a morsel of spiritual truth, and then you allow it to gradually raise your consciousness.

Unfortunately, many people – especially in today’s age of instant gratification – seek to force this process with their intellects. This is especially dangerous when people want some kind of phenomenon or peak experience. Such people often end up with a false experience that gives them an incorrect understanding of the spiritual side of life. Yet these people believe that because of the experience they had, their understanding is the absolute truth. That is why I said:

The kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force. (Matthew 11:12)

My point being that you cannot force an intellectual understanding of non-attachment—you cannot force non-attachment. You need to ponder it and gradually internalize the deeper truth behind the concept of non-attachment—you need to become that truth and then you will be non-attached.

When that happens, you will naturally find a balance that allows you to enjoy the things of this world without becoming attached to them. In other words, ideally you should be able to fully appreciate and enjoy the beauty of this world. Why do you think I said:

I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. (John 10:10)

God has no desire to see spiritual people renounce all aspects of the material world. So the path of renunciation – espoused by so many Christian churches and other religions – is not the ideal path. In reality, when you renounce all of the things of this world, you are inevitably denying some aspects of God’s design, some of God’s gifts to his sons and daughters. As long as this denial of God’s gifts continues, the kingdom of God simply cannot become manifest on earth.

However, this does not mean that the path of renunciation is completely wrong. It means that it is a response to a crisis, namely that so many people have become attached to the things of this world to the point where they identify themselves as material beings instead of spiritual beings. They think they could not possibly live without the things of this world or they think they could not be complete without some aspect of life in this world. This attitude prevents people from entering the kingdom of God because:

20 And when he was demanded of the Pharisees, when the kingdom of God should come, he answered them and said, The kingdom of God cometh not with observation:
21 Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you. (Luke, Chapter 17)

In other words, you cannot truly take the kingdom of heaven by force, even though many people think they can. So many religious people believe that by following the outer rules and believing the doctrines of their religion – by observing the rules of this world – they will automatically force their way into heaven. Not so. The kingdom of heaven is a state of consciousness. The key to attaining that state of consciousness is to become non-attached to everything in this world. Becoming non-attached is a process with several stages. We might talk about several main stages—although many more could be defined:

  • You realize there is more to life than the material world.
  • You decide you want an understanding of the spiritual side of life more than certain material pleasures, so you are willing to set aside worldly pursuits to free up time and attention to attain a spiritual understanding.
  • You realize the real key to spiritual growth is to internalize truth and integrate with a higher part of your being, what I call your Christ self.
  • You realize that certain activities in this world take you away from integrating with your Christ self. You then decide to let go of such activities without feeling a sense of loss. Your Christ self gives you something that is more valuable and fulfilling than earthly pleasures.
  • You realize that many of the things in this world are expressions of God’s vision. They are God’s gifts. Therefore, enjoying these gifts – without becoming attached to them – does not detract from your Christhood. You can now appreciate God’s gifts without thinking that you cannot live without them.

As you go through this process of gradually becoming non-attached to the things of this world, you begin to realize that God is the source of all that is good. Therefore, you stop looking to worldly sources and causes for your survival and pleasure. You look to God for everything, and when you do so with complete faith and complete non-attachment. God truly will fill all of your needs. This is expressed in my saying:

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (Matthew 6:33)

It is important for spiritual seekers to realize that before your lifestream came into embodiment, you created a plan for your life that was designed to produce maximum spiritual growth. In other words, your lifestream wanted maximum growth and it asked God to help it attain that growth. Right now, you outer mind might have forgotten this and have developed a strong desire for certain things in this world. You might think you can’t live without them, you might think you are incomplete without them or that you cannot grow spiritually without them. You might even think – which is the greatest illusion of all – that you cannot manifest your Christhood without these outer things.

So if God were to give you those things, it would only reinforce your belief in your incompleteness, and this would be in direct opposition to your growth. The essence of Christhood is that you realize that you need nothing from this world, nothing from outside your self (your Christ self) to manifest your Christhood.

Do you see my point? If not, please spend some time pondering the teaching I am giving you. The essence of the teaching is something I taught Kim as I was training him to serve as my messenger. I told him: “If you think you need it, you can’t have it!” The meaning is that as long as you think you are incomplete – that you cannot be the Christ – without something in this world, God cannot give it to you. Doing so would violate your lifestream’s deeper choices of wanting maximum spiritual growth. Yet God has no desire to see you live a life of lack. God wants you to have the abundant life:

Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. (Luke 12:32)

So the moment you attain final non-attachment to the things of this world and realize that God is the source of all good, then God can and will give you the abundant life.

In terms of defining materialism, there are several stages, representing a progressive denial of God:

  • Some people think there is nothing beyond the material world. God doesn’t exist and there is no part of themselves that is beyond the material world. Only that which can be detected by the physical senses or scientific instruments is real. This is the kind of denial of God espoused by many scientific materialists.
  • People realize there is more to life than the material world, but they cannot connect it to themselves. They see God as being way above them. They think they are separated from God and can only be saved by someone outside themselves. This is a denial of God espoused by many orthodox followers of any religion, including Christianity. They recognize that God exists, but deny that he exists where they are.
  • People begin to realize that everything is created from God’s energy, yet they still see a separation between the material world and God. So they think God cannot do certain things – such as heal diseases – or give them things in the material world. They think they must depend on the material world for their survival and for their pleasures. This denial is espoused by many spiritual people who have not yet fully internalized a true spiritual teaching. Therefore, they have not yet attained true non-attachment.

You are correct that the process of attaining non-attachment is a process of overcoming the ego. However, it is not a battle between the ego and God, for God has no opposite. It is a battle between the lifestream and the ego, and the question is whether the lifestream allows itself to be controlled by the ego or sees itself as a co-creator with its I AM Presence. Remember that the ego is born of separation from God, and therefore the ego is the ultimate materialist. As you attain complete non-attachment, your ego will die, so one might say that the source of all materialism is the ego and the forces – the prince of this world – using the ego to control your lifestream.

One last point. When you realize that God is the source of all good, you realize that the concept of scarcity is an illusion. God is unlimited, so there is no scarcity in God. This is the true concept of the abundant life. When you ponder the cause of attachment, you will see that it springs from the illusion of scarcity—you believe that there isn’t an unlimited supply, so you have to hold on to what you have. When you transcend this illusion, you will realize that there is an infinite supply of all good things, and therefore you can begin to freely give of what you have to others—knowing that God will multiply what you give. “Freely ye have received, freely give” (Matthew 10:8). And when a critical mass of people begin to give instead of holding on to what they have, you will see the abundant life manifest on earth.


Copyright © 2004 by Kim Michaels