Question: When someone has an expectation about what we should do or how we should behave, why do we often feel that we must fulfill that expectation? Why do we often lose ourselves in the effort to fulfill the expectations that other people have for us? Also, can this feeling have something to do with our reason for coming to Planet Earth in the first place? Who would have expected this task from us? Would I have had an expectation from myself? I feel that my reason for coming to Planet Earth may be in some way connected to expectation.
Answer from the Ascended Master More through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2022 Webinar – Democracy and Christhood.
Well, those of us who were avatars had a reason for coming to earth. And as we saw it back then, we wanted to accomplish something, we wanted to do something positive on earth. We wanted to make a difference and raise this planet up to overcome the suffering that we saw, and that shocked us when we saw it. We all came here with a goal. And we all came here with an expectation that we could accomplish that goal, because we were used to, from a natural planet, that we could accomplish whatever goal we set for ourselves.
One of the big shocks we had when we came to earth was that it was so much more difficult to accomplish our goals on this planet. This was partly the density of matter, but more so, the density of the collective consciousness. Because, when you think about what we did as avatars, there was a fundamental difference. On a natural planet we were seeking to raise the whole. This was not done by directly changing other people, because everybody else was wanting to raise the whole. There was no resistance towards our efforts to raise the whole.
Here we come to earth, and we are thinking in our minds that we are also here to raise the whole. The problem, which we have not realized fully, is that most people on earth are not in the state of consciousness people are in on a natural planet. They are not wanting to raise the whole. They are wanting to do what is best for themselves even if it has negative consequences for other people. Even if it creates suffering on a planetary basis, because they do not see that it does so.
What we are really actually aiming to do when we come to earth is to change the world by changing other people who do not want to change. And of course, this is nigh impossible, or at least very difficult to do. Even if you were an avatar who was not viciously attacked by the fallen beings, you still have a birth trauma in the sense that you experienced the shock of how much more difficult it is to come to earth. You realize that you cannot fulfill your own expectations for coming here, at least not as easily as you thought.
Right there, you have the disappointment that you cannot fulfill your own expectations. The question is: Are we willing to revise our expectations to see that they were unrealistic and let them go? Or do we hang on to them, and more or less frantically try to fulfill them by doing this or by doing that, or by trying this or by trying that?
Now, the other thing that happens is that even aside from the birth trauma, as a result of the attack by the fallen beings, we experienced that the people on earth are not responding to us. Many of us had leadership positions on natural planets, and we were used to the people responding, because they could see that what we suggested was what was best for them and for the whole. Here on earth, people are not responding, they cannot see that what we are saying is best for them. And so, they either ignore us, or they reject us, or they even in some cases undermine us and work against us. Or they attack us personally, which we certainly did not expect would happen.
Now we are saying: “Okay, the fallen ones are one thing, perhaps I cannot change them” – even though some avatars go into a phase where they think they can change the fallen beings, but others say: “I cannot change the fallen beings, but maybe I can change the people. How do I do this? Well, they do not seem to understand what I am saying. That must be because I am not good enough at explaining myself, so I have to try to be better at explaining myself. And maybe they cannot understand me, because they cannot identify with me because I am so different. Maybe if I could go in, take embodiment among the people, and be just like them, so they can accept me as one of their own, maybe then they will listen to me.”
You see how this then puts you in this mode where in order to fit in with the people, you have to live up to their expectations. This can cause some avatars to go into this state of mind where they are always mindful of other people’s expectations. They do not want to disappoint people’s expectations, they want to live up to them, so that people will hopefully listen to them. And it puts you in a passive state of mind. Basically, all of us have had this reaction to the people of earth.
As an avatar, when you rise to a certain level of Christhood, you need to take a look at this. First, you need to take a look at your own expectations for coming to earth: Let them go. Then you need to take a look at other people’s expectations and realize that, in most cases, you cannot actually accomplish anything by following the norm, by living up to the expectations of your family or your society, or the people in your profession, or whatever it may be. Because, how do you bring forth something new, if you are always focused on living up to the expectations of the people who are not open to something new, or at least who are not open to bringing it forth through themselves?
It is important to use our tools to simply say: “I have, because of this dynamic, created certain selves that have unrealistic expectations. I need to look at them and just let them die.” It may be for some of you easier to look at your expectations from other people first, before you look at your own expectations for coming here. Whatever works for you individually. But you do need at some point to consider: “Why did I decide to come here? What was it in my mind that I wanted to accomplish? And what were the expectations that were the inevitable consequence of wanting to accomplish this?” And then you need to let it go. You need to recognize that your disappointed expectations caused you to create certain selves in order to deal with this. And you need to uncover it and just let them die.
You will not qualify for your ascension by fulfilling the expectations you had before coming here, or by fulfilling other people’s expectations. You will qualify for your ascension only by rising above all expectations, internal or external. This is also what Jesus demonstrated. This is also to some degree what I demonstrated as Thomas More because there were people around me, including my own family members, who had expectations of how I should live my life, and it did not include being beheaded on the king’s order. There was massive pressure on me to renege my stand and save my head and therefore save the expectations of even close family members.
Some of you will have experienced this in this lifetime, may experience it as you grow. And you need to recognize that the solution is not to fulfill the expectations but to let them go.
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