Question: In terms of relationships, I find more and more people who ghost each other. This technique can make it very difficult to connect socially because of the fear of how easy it is for people to just chop it all. I wonder if the masters can comment on this and if any karma is gained by ghosting people.
Kim: I do not know if you are familiar with the term. I was not, so I had to ask. But it means that you are in a relationship with somebody and it can be a close relationship and suddenly people just walk out, cut off all connection. Do not communicate, do not ask, do not say why, they just disappear out of people’s lives.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2024 Chicago Conference.
Well, certainly you can say that this phenomenon is born of people who are not willing to look at their own psychology, and therefore, they are not willing to use the relationship as an opportunity to resolve psychology. Now again you can say: “Can you blame people who have not been brought up with any understanding of psychology or any tools for resolving psychology?” But, of course, it is, again from an overall perspective, it is forcing people to deal with this individually and eventually it will force society to deal with it.
The only real solution to this is, of course, that society helps people with their psychology from an early age, and therefore, also helps them deal with relationships, how they relate to other people. It is naturally a karma-making situation in the sense that you miss an opportunity for your own growth, which you have in your Divine Plan for what lessons you want to learn, but also you are not helping the other person deal with their psychology, you just disappear, and therefore, you cut off the opportunity for both people to grow from this situation.
I am not saying that people should stay in relationships. Obviously relationships are complicated, and there are many people who will engage in a relationship, and it will last for time, and it will break up, but if they can at least communicate with each other about why they do not think their relationship is working, then both parties have an opportunity to learn from it if they are willing. Of course, if they are not willing, but the person leaving without communicating is making karma. If you communicate while you are leaving, and the person is not open to learning the lessons, then the other person makes karma, but you do not because you have given the other person an opportunity. You can, of course, make karma if you leave without looking at your own lessons.
Again, it is a complicated situation, but obviously the whole trend is, again, born of this very superficial attitude that people have to relationships, where you actually see that it is not just the Hollywood fantasy, but you see actually that there is a tendency in society that people in general are becoming more focused on themselves and “what is in it for me”. They approach a relationship with the idea that they are meant to get something out of it and not give something in return. You have many, many people today in the more modern democracies who are functionally narcissists, and who are only thinking about themselves, who are only focused on themselves, and therefore, cannot really have a successful relationship. Out of their unwillingness to look at themselves and think that maybe I have something to learn, maybe I should change, they just leave and look for somebody else who can give them what they want.
And there are people who can go through a lifetime of this going from relationship to relationship without ever finding what they are looking for and, of course, without making progress on their spiritual path, which they are not walking consciously, of course. Obviously it is not a positive trend, but it is again one of these things that can force people individually and force societies to see that the problem has become so extreme that something needs to be done about it.
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