Question: Why is it that it appears that in my mind I recall or see what I have done to others, or what others have done to others, but I do not seem to see what others have done to me? It appears when I talk to beings, they share memories of what others did to them. I realize both perceptions are from a self-centered perspective. I ask for a higher perspective for myself and all life.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2025 USA Conference.
When you are at the lower levels of the path you are very focused on what others have done to you. You are often wanting to hold other people accountable for what they have done. You might want to punish them. You might want to have them see the wrong they have done to you so they can feel bad about themselves and reform their ways. In other words, at the lower levels, your attention is focused out there on what other people have done. You are focusing on the splinter in the eye of your brother, instead of the beam in your own eye. Incidentally, your brother might also have a beam in his eye, but that does not really help you much.
When you go beyond this level and you reach a level where you are willing to take responsibility for yourself and for changing yourself, looking at yourself, then do you really need to focus on what other people have done to you? Well, you may need to do this if it created a trauma in you so you can resolve the trauma. But there is a period of the path, which is what you are going through, where you are more focused on what you have done to others and what the consequences have been for others. And this helps you resolve a certain segment of separate selves that are based on a self-centered vision, where you were doing something to others without really acknowledging the consequences. What you are going through is simply a certain phase. You are dealing with separate selves at a certain level, not the lowest level, because you have transcended that need to blame others.
You also do not need to blame yourself, of course, but you do need to look at the selves you have that cause you to do certain things to others and dissolve those selves, so you are free of that psychology.
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