Question: Last autumn, my father passed away after battling a serious illness. He spent his last months in the ICU intubated and on a ventilator. Every time I visited him, it was heartbreaking and I thought he must be in so much pain. During that time, I gave many degrees and invocations praying for his healing, and that he would be free from pain. Our family is still going through the difficult grieving process, especially because it happened so suddenly that we could not say a proper goodbye. I know he is now free from the physical body and the burden of his illness, but I still regret not being able to help him enough and I miss him dearly. It is a long story but here are my questions.
Do decrees or invocations for a specific person actually help them? What is the best way to do this? Also, does performing decrees or invocations for sick people around me or pets (our family dog also passed away after being sick around the same time) affect our karma in any way?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2026 New Year Webinar.
Yes, doing decrees and invocations for people who are ill or who are in the process of transitioning out of the physical body can indeed be helpful to them. These decrees are of course subject to their free will, but it gives them an opportunity to make a higher choice. Therefore, if they make that choice, it is certainly beneficial for them. When I say “they,” I mean that even if the body is unconscious, the Conscious You is still conscious. The Conscious You is fully conscious, reacting to the situation of the body being sick or dying and therefore, your decrees can help the Conscious You make a better decision in the situation.
What you especially want to decree for is that the Conscious You, the person, is cut free from any ties to lower forces. You want to decree for the transmutation by the violet flame of any fear-based energy in their emotional, mental, and identity bodies, even for that matter in the physical, and you want to call to the ascended masters, whomever is closest to you, to help the person make the most learning out of the process.
In terms of making decrees for a family pet, it is not something I recommend. It has no effect on the pet. You must realize that your pets, even though they can have some individualized awareness, they do not have anywhere near a human awareness.
Question: I read your explanation that missing the deceased is an emotion stemming from possessiveness, and I understand it fully. However, despite understanding, I just miss him and want to see him so much. How should I handle these emotions?
You recognize that this comes from a separate self, and then you use our teachings and tools to overcome the separate self. When you miss a person who has left the physical body, you can, by missing the person, create an energetic tie between you and the person. If the person is pained because you are missing him, then it can be more difficult for him to move on. You need to simply be a little bit cruel with yourself and say: No matter how much I miss my father, will it bring him back into physical embodiment? The answer is obviously no. Therefore, what is the best you can do for your father and for yourself? Accept the situation and allow both of you to move on. That you do by dissolving the separate self that causes you to have an energetic tie to your father and causes him to be tied to you.
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