Question: I am a Korean mother with two sons, ages 19 and 18. My oldest son experienced early emotional neglect and later started medication for the early stages of schizophrenia. He is now attending a university far from home. I am worried about whether he can manage dorm life and future military service. Is this related to his karma or life path? What can I do as a mother to help him live a happy life?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2026 New Year Webinar.
At this late stage, where he has moved away from home, as in moving into adulthood, and there is not much you can do. You could have done something earlier in life. But if that was not possible due to your situation, then you need to look at it with no regrets and move on.
What you can do is, with whatever interactions you have with your son, give him unconditional acceptance for who he is. Accept him for who he is. Do not try to change him. Do not try to tell him what to do or live his life. Just accept him. Always be positive, whatever he is going through. Do not tell him. Do not seek to force him, just be supportive and accept him unconditionally for who he is.
This relates to a concept I have talked about before of holding the immaculate concept. But to really hold the immaculate concept, you have to be neutral and not have a particular image of how you want your son to live his life. Even the idea that you want him to live a happy life can be limiting. You really need to step up and want him to have the most possible growth that he can have, but not have a clear vision of what that means for him. Whether he is happy or not, it is a matter of his karma, his psychology from past lives, and what he does with his opportunities in this life. That is not your choice to make.
Therefore, I say, support him, accept him, encourage him. Do not force or tell him what to do, or seek to manipulate him in any emotional way, such as shame or guilt, or a sense of being obligated towards you as his mother. Set him free, set yourself free, but still accept him and support him.
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