Question: Dear Masters, Why do some people self harm and what is a recommendation to help a child with such a tendency to overcome this pattern?
My 17 year old son has a development disability with autism and has recently contracted a severe bacterial infection that has scarred his nose and left facial area. He already had a tendency to pick at and pull out any scabs or partially healed wounds , but this is much worse. The infection was aggressively attacking his face and picking at it made it much worse.
As his parents we were and still are in a very challenging position and have had to restrain him for many hours in a day when in hospital and also at home by tying his hands and feet so he can go through the treatment ( keeping an IV line intact) and not pick on the partially healed wounds.
Please advise on how I can help him in this situation, so he can overcome this tendency of picking at wounds (including simple cuts and scrapes) As an ascended master student I have seen that the cause is psychological and possibly dark forces at work? but he is unable to work through it, possibly due to the mental disability. I have made many calls to the masters to help but now I’m at my wits end and not sure how to work through this with him in a practical and positive way .
Also how can I handle this in the future as I’m sure this incident will also affect his future tendencies ?
Masters have previously commented that usually dark forces are responsible for such tendencies and I wonder how I can help such as child who is almost an adult but functioning mentally at a much different level.
Is this a karmic return , or a severe outpicturing of his internal state of mind so the intense suffering may lead to some resolution ? If so, how can I as a parent support him ?
Also in general his current lifetime is filled with illnesses and surgeries and it makes us wonder what’s the reason for such a difficult life. I sense he is an evolved and /or advanced lifestream but cannot really intuit what is the purpose of his life . How can I help him be more at peace and live a happier life.
Please could you advise ?
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2025 New Year webinar.
There are many challenging conditions in the material world where we do not have a simple, easy answer. This is part of the density of an unnatural planet like earth, that there are conditions that cannot be changed easily or quickly. When you are dealing with people who have these severe mental challenges, or even physical challenges, there are some times where you simply have to do what you have to do in the practical situation which is what you are describing, to prevent him from harming himself.
When you cannot talk with a person, reason with a person, put them through therapy, there is not much you can do to help them stop doing this by themselves. You can always use the decrees, call to Astrea to cut the person free, call to Archangel Michael for their protection, use the violet flame to transmute their karma, but this will not be a quick and easy solution. You already understand this when you have been going through this for so many years, and I am not going to try to give you a false hope that this can be changed. You need to recognize that it was part of your Divine Plan that you volunteered to take this on, and you need to really contemplate what you are meant to learn from it, how you can use it for growth, for yourself. And you also need to contemplate whether the way you have approached it so far is the only way it could be done, or whether you can find a way to deal with the condition that gives you more time and attention for your spiritual growth or for other aspects of life.
There are situations where people take on this very difficult situation because they have karma with the person, so there may come a point where you have balanced sufficient karma that you do not necessarily need to be in the condition for the rest of your life. There may be alternatives, depending on your individual situation. It may also be that you have chosen to sponsor a soul who is quite advanced in a spiritual sense, and who has therefore, chosen to come in with these handicaps, physical or mental, in order to avoid being pulled into active life but having more time for the inner life. There are examples of people who have reached a very high level of consciousness, but who have taken on these debilitating conditions simply to hold a balance for the earth. I am not saying this is always the case, but it is sometimes the case.
So, be practical in the immediate situation, do what has to be done to prevent a greater harm, but also consider the long-term implications, whether there is an alternative that could free you up to have more attention on other aspects of life.
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