Question: I have a question for the masters, I live in a Muslim culture, and it is very hard to meet a partner who can go beyond the culture or religion. I met a partner who initially was open to the teachings, and he seemed to already have transcended many things, even going beyond many aspects of Islam. But when the point came of questioning Muhammad or the Quran as not being infallible, this is where he could not go beyond this and just stopped his growth from the outside, although he may be growing from the inside and processing things. I do not know that. It is very difficult to have a relationship with such a mindset. Is it possible to be in a relationship with a Muslim or Christian or whatever outer religion where the partner is not willing to transcend certain ideas and at the same time walk the path to Christhood to the fullest? Is it possible to only have the practical aspects of the companionship while pursuing the path independently but not opening such subjects with the partner? I feel this is one of these dilemmas on this difficult dense planet that I cannot wrap my head around, because I feel it is important for the other partner to also plunge into the River of Life, and I feel my outer mind is going in circles regarding this issue.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2024 Easter webinar.
It is difficult to give one unequivocal answer to such a question. There could of course be cases where it is simply a matter of giving the partner time to grow, but those are relatively few, and in most cases what will happen is that when you have a partner who is committed to spiritual growth and another partner who is resisting it because he or she is holding on to certain beliefs, then there will eventually come a certain conflict in a relationship, because as you go higher on the path your growth will become a threat to the other person who will feel that you are making progress and he or she is not, who will feel the greater distance, the greater contrast, and therefore the person’s ego will act out and the person will often become an open door for lower forces to use that person to stop your growth.
This has happened to many ascended master students who had partners who were not in a spiritual teaching and who were not growing spiritually. The difficulty here is that there are of course exceptions, there are cases where after some time the partner overcame a certain hump and started to grow. It is understandable that with your outer mind you cannot make this decision, but you do not have to make it with the outer mind. You have to tune into your intuition and sense what is in your Divine Plan. Is it in your Divine Plan to help this person, this particular person, or does your Divine Plan involve things that go beyond this person and is meant to help other people, possibly transform your culture? If the latter is the case, do you really want to be tied to a person who might prevent you from fulfilling the higher aspects of your Divine Plan? Or do you simply need to say, well this is as far as I am willing to go with this relationship and therefore, I need to express this to my partner and let him or her decide?
Not in the sense that you demand something of the partner, but that you simply express how you feel about the relationship and what you are willing to do and not willing to do. But what you need to realize also is that when you have a situation, any situation where you feel like your outer mind is going in circles, then it is because you have not truly considered what you want. In other words, there is a division in your being that is caused by separate selves. There are some separate selves that are pulling on you to stay in the relationship because you have a certain view of what a relationship should be like in your culture. Perhaps it even goes beyond the culture and goes back to past lifetimes.
You need to clarify, who are you, what kind of relationship do you really want? Because the moment you overcome the division about relationships where you feel obligated to do something or to have a certain kind of relationship or to give the other person a certain leeway, the moment you overcome the division, you will have a clear intuitive sense that is beyond your outer mind. And then it is possible that your partner will sense this and will therefore make a decision to step up to a higher level of the path. And it is possible that your partner will decide not to go up higher. And then it is quite possible that the situation will change. You will either leave the relationship, you will meet someone else that can fulfil your desires for a relationship that you have now clarified. You see, many times you have people, even spiritual people, who have what in previous dispensations was called a karmic attraction to others.
For example, you can see two people who meet in a spiritual movement, and they instantly feel this very big sexual attraction to each other. And they think that because of the attraction, they are meant to have a relationship that they might think they can have a special relationship. But in many cases, it is because they have karma with each other, and they have a desire to balance the karma. But the thing is, you may have karma with other people, but it does not mean you have to have a relationship with them in order to balance the karma. You can still do this by learning the lesson, transforming your consciousness, making calls for transmuting the energy.
You have to be careful that you do not feel an attraction to a person, and you think you have to have a relationship with that person. And that is why it is important to clarify, what view of relationship do you have from this and past lifetimes, what sense of obligation? And you can use the tool of centering in your heart, thinking about a certain aspect of a relationship and feeling whether it raises your energy or lowers your energy. Do you feel this limits you? Do you feel a sense of dread? And you have to take this on a simple obligation, or it can be no other way. Then it comes from a separate self. And you are not going to increase your growth by allowing yourself to be pulled into a relationship by these separate selves. You need to then look at the selves, flush them out, and let them go. And then you overcome the division in your psyche concerning relationships. And you will see clearly what to do about your present relationship, and you will attract other relationships to you. Whenever you feel that your outer mind is going in circles, it is because you are lacking clarity. Look for the selves that are pulling you in different directions, lowering your energies, making you feel obligated or a sense of dread. Resolve those selves, and you will have greater clarity. And in some cases, a situation will change, and suddenly another person will appear in your life that you can have a higher relationship with.
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