How do we experience the Conscious You stepping outside of the self?

Question: I want to ask about the experience when the Conscious You steps outside of a subconscious self. It is still strange for me even after 10 years of studying the teachings. I believe I have transcended many separate selves. I describe it as having enough of a self, seeing how the self limits my life and being ready to give it up. Then integrating a higher understanding and feeling the love for that new understanding. But I have never felt something separating from something inside of me as I understand the phrase “the Conscious You steps outside”. I wonder if we are really transcending selves if we do not experience this. Can you explain more about this?

Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2024 Easter webinar.

Well, would you please use words to describe the taste of an apple? What we are trying to do here is to use words to describe an experience. Of course, that experience can be different for different people. Obviously, you are transcending the selves when you have that experience you are describing and it can be other experiences that are perfectly valid that shows you that you have transcended a self.

However, how do you come to see a self, to see the illusion and feel the love for higher understanding? It is actually because the Conscious You has stepped outside of the self. Otherwise, how can you, and you are the Conscious You, see it, see the illusion behind the self and give it up? Whether you use those particular words to describe your experience does not matter.

The experience is valid as long as you feel that there is something you give up, something you let go of, and you feel you rise to a higher level of consciousness, you have a higher experience, you have an experience of love, whatever it may be for you individually. Certainly, there can be many valid experiences that you have when you give up a self, when you transcend a self. Do not be stuck on that you have to experience a particular worded expression. But it can also be that the words we use trigger a different meaning or experience, basically a different concept in your mind. Again, what works for you, what makes you feel that you have transcended something, that is what is important.