Question: I have a question to the masters, I live in the Middle East and part of being here is to always have contact and some relationship with the family. I felt free to at least, hopefully, finally move on from them totally, at least in the mind, after reading Mother Mary’s dictation: Cutting ties with your family members. Sometimes I feel stuck because my spouse is not growing and neither are my parents or siblings, only my daughter is growing and we share this together. Being with them sometimes feels like suffocating. They are not open to change and I also let go of any attachment to change them. They always project certain expectations at me and it is always about finding that balance to keep coexisting. Sometimes, I feel I want to be free and later in life move far away so I can be myself more freely even on the outer and not just the inner. I know that this should not be a fear-based decision but also maybe staying is also fear-based. I know there can be many right decisions but would appreciate any input on this situation.
Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2023 New Year’s webinar – Being a spiritual person in a chaotic world.
Well, this of course, needs to be an individual decision. Many people are, of course, in a similar situation, not just in the Middle East. One of the challenges you face on the spiritual path is, as we have said, to raise your own consciousness above the collective consciousness and this is clearly manifest in your family relationships. Your family is constantly trying to pull you to stay at their level of consciousness because they do not want to change. How do you deal with this?
Well, again it must be an individual decision and it is perfectly true that it should not come from fear. It is also true that staying can very well be a fear-based decision because you fear what might happen if you move, how your family would react, how you would feel if you did not have the closeness with your family, if you suddenly were alone or with just a few people and did not have an extended family and you were in an unknown situation. The best you can do is use our tools and teachings on the separate selves. You can use these tools to identify what separate selves you have relating to your family but even going back to your birth trauma and realizing that many people after the birth trauma felt alone in a dangerous world. And over succeeding lifetimes you built this desire to always belong to some kind of group so you were not standing alone. And this is what is often the basis for these family ties where you feel attached to a family, may not be the same people but you have this self that feels that you can only be safe in a group.
When you bring these selves into the conscious awareness, look at them and let them die, then you will be more free to make a decision that is not fear-based. There are certainly a large number of spiritual people who have it as part of their divine plan to move to a different environment, not necessarily a different country but certainly move away from their family, so they have an opportunity to start over. It has been said by the Buddha that moving away from your home country is accomplishing half the dharma and even though this is not the case for everyone, there is some truth in it.
This messenger when he moved away from his family and moved to another country where he had no family, suddenly realized that nobody knew him, nobody had any expectations of him and he, therefore, had the freedom to remake himself based on what kind of person he wanted to be. This can certainly be an opportunity to start a new phase of your life, a new phase of your spiritual path. This is something you can consider but again you can best make the decisions when you look at the separate selves and dismiss them, often then you do not even have to make a decision with the outer mind. It just becomes obvious what is the next step for you to take.
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