Question: I noticed this trend among the women in my family and friends who are in relationships and seem to have a hard time with their significant other stepping up. Oftentimes, they sound dissatisfied with how their partner handles situations. For example, the men do not communicate enough and do not take enough initiative and the woman feels like she is always the one suggesting things to do, planning and executing activities, taking care of the place, etc. They seem to just end up extremely frustrated and resentful of their partners, wondering what is wrong with men. Can the masters comment on how the women can get a better understanding on this situation?
Answer from the ascended master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given during the 2022 Webinar – Democracy and Christhood.
Well, this is a common phenomenon that is seen in many parts of the world, especially in the democratic nations, where there is more growth in many people’s consciousness. You will see, as we have said before, that there is a general tendency that women are more open to personal growth and even spiritual growth or psychological healing than men are. This means that in many relationships, there is a disproportionate growth, where the woman grows faster than the man and therefore, there comes a time where the woman is no longer satisfied with the man’s level of spiritual growth and also his activities. He does not have any interest in doing the things that the woman sees as important.
This is, of course, a very individual situation, how you deal with this. There is not just one way. For some women, it will be necessary to simply separate from the man and either live alone for some time or find another partner who is more compatible with her level of consciousness and her dedication to growth. But others can find a way to still coexist with a man and still pursue their spiritual growth. Still others may find it possible to inspire the man to be more active in pursuing personal growth.
There will always be individual scenarios but it is clear that if there is too big of a distance between the level of consciousness of two partners and the growth experienced by the partners, there will be tension, and there can certainly come a point where the person who is more dedicated to growth will find it necessary to remove itself from the relationship. I am not saying you should do this, I am not saying you should not.
It is an individual consideration and I recommend that you take your time and that you work on healing your psychology as much as possible and increase your intuition, so that you do not decide with your outer mind, but come to that point where the decision comes from within. You are neutral about it and it just seems like this is the right thing to do and this is the right time to do it. This, of course, is especially true if you have children, where you might give serious consideration to staying in a relationship in order to give the children a more secure upbringing. But again, there are individual considerations, where it is simply necessary to move on for you to experience maximum growth. This you will be able to tune into, in your divine plan, when you heal your psychology and try to be as neutral as possible.
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