Having vs. experiencing emotions 

Question: Are our feelings of emotions such as happiness, anger, anxiety or sadness a result of a separate self? In other words, do we have emotions because of a separate self?

Answer from the Ascended Master Mother Mary through Kim Michaels. This answer was given at the 2020 Webinar – Being the Divine Mother.

You do not have emotions because of a separate self. The separate self has emotions, and if you identify yourself with or as the separate self, you are experiencing these emotions. I know the common saying is that you are having an emotion, but you are not. You as the Conscious You are not having an emotion. You are experiencing an emotion.

Now it is not that you as a Conscious You cannot experience certain emotions, but that would be emotions that are not dualistic. In other words, they have no opposite. The Buddha talked about bliss, which some people have interpreted to mean extreme happiness, but it is not actually. It is an emotion that is beyond the dualistic opposites such as happiness and unhappiness, anger, hatred, all of these fear-based feelings and all of the feelings that could be said to have an opposite. All of these opposable feelings, dualistic feelings, feelings that can be put into what the Buddha called the pairs, they are feelings that a separate self is having. When you are not aware of the separate self and you have not experienced yourself as pure awareness, when you have not separated yourself from a separate self, then you think you are having the emotion. You feel you are having the emotion, but in reality you are not, and the key here is for the Conscious You to become aware of this.

It does not mean that you will necessarily overcome all separate selves, or that you have to overcome all separate selves, but you can come to an awareness where you realize that you are more than the separate self. Therefore when you are having a certain feeling, you realize: “Oh, this is a separate self that’s having this feeling, but I am more than this separate self.” It does not mean you can instantly get rid of the separate self. The separate self may still have a feeling.

Let us say you experienced some very dramatic situation where something happens that is unpleasant to the separate self, that the separate self thought should not happen. The separate self has a certain emotion because of this, but you can realize that you are not the separate self, and therefore even though the emotion is there in your emotional body, you are not pulled into it. You are not identified with it. You are not experiencing the feeling from the outside. You are not inside this, we might say, glass container filled with water that is colored by the emotion. You are not drowning in the emotion. You are standing outside. You are seeing that there is this container with water that is swirling around and the water is colored by a certain emotion. But you can just allow it to be an emotion. You do not need to react to it.

This means you can break that spiral of emotions where in many cases, when you have a traumatic situation that happens, one self reacts to the situation with some emotion: “Oh, this shouldn’t have happened.” Another self then goes in and feels anger or regret or blames you for doing what you did or not doing what you did not do. All of a sudden there is this spiral that runs and runs and runs, where these separate selves are sort of activating each other, and your entire awareness is pulled into this, and you cannot pull yourself out of it.

But when you come to the recognition that you are not the separate self, you can allow these emotions to just be there, but they are not taking over your mind. You can actually step outside of your emotional body, perhaps step up to the mental, perhaps even to the identity, and you are just experiencing these emotions from the outside rather than from the inside, which makes it much, much more bearable for you.


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