How to deal with people who seek to destroy your spiritual beliefs

TOPICS: All spiritual people are exposed to those who mock or ridicule their beliefs – how to deal with this in a constructive manner – goal is to have peace of mind – look for your attachments – the fear that you could be wrong – the Spoilers – those who seek to destroy the beliefs of others – the memory of how beings interact in the spiritual realm – projecting responsibility away from yourself – starting to remove the beam in your own eye – always thinking it is your fault – being non-attached to the reactions of others – some people are not teachable and need to learn from experience – others will not respond to your arguments the same way you would – respect the free will of others—and yourself – the desire to convince others versus non-attachment – strive to speak out without frustration – all-or-nothing response puts people in a catch-22 – inner insecurity makes it important to be right – being unable to admit mistakes makes it impossible to grow – the need to evangelize by proving others wrong – a diversionary tactic by the ego and dark forces – some people are willing to destroy you in order to prove their egos right – some people taken over by dark forces who attack you viciously

Question: Jesus and other masters have talked about the need to share our beliefs and speak out to other people. But when I do so, I am often met with a very negative attitude, where people seem to feel threatened by ideas that do not conform to their beliefs. I can understand that reaction from fundamentalist Christians, but I often get it from New Age people as well. I even meet people who get angry or who very mockingly seek to put down my beliefs or the entire idea of ascended masters. I have friends who for that reason have stopped talking about their spiritual beliefs, because they simply don’t want to deal with this kind of negative energy. Does Jesus have any comments on why we get this reaction and what we can do to avoid being frustrated or feeling rejected?

Answer from ascended master Jesus through Kim Michaels:

This is an issue that applies to many sincere spiritual seekers. As a spiritual person in the modern western world, you will inevitably run into people who flat out reject your spiritual beliefs. You get opposition from atheists or materialists, from mainstream Christians and even from other seemingly spiritual people who think their guru, philosophy or organization is the only true one.

I see so many sincere seekers who get a negative reaction to their beliefs and lifestyle and who respond with frustration. In many cases this leads people to engage in arguments with others, and they usually lead nowhere. Perhaps both people even end up getting angry and misqualify energy in the process without ever finding any common ground or resolution.

As a sincere spiritual seeker, you need to recognize one fundamental truth about the spiritual path. The real goal is to rise above the consciousness of duality, as I explain in my ego discourses. When you do rise above the dualistic illusions of the mind of anti-christ, you will have attained what the Buddha called enlightenment, and in this state you will have complete peace of mind. Yet as the Buddha explained, the key to attaining this peace of mind is to overcome ALL attachments to anything on earth.

My point is that as a spiritual seeker, you must always be looking for any attachments you might have. As I said 2,000 years ago:

First cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye. (Matthew 7:5)

So when you discover any attachment, you need to look in the mirror and uncover the dualistic belief that causes the attachment. You can then reach for the truth of Christ that will set you free from the dualistic illusion, what the Buddha called Maya. Any time you realize that you are not at peace about something, you need to look for the underlying cause and remove that beam from your eye. If you feel frustrated by the reactions of certain people, you need to let go of an attachment.


At the beginning stages of the spiritual path, people are often very vulnerable to a negative reaction from people who question or condemn their beliefs. This is understandable, and the underlying reason is that people are still not firmly anchored in their spiritual beliefs. They feel insecure because at some level they realize that they have some contradictions in their world view, they have many questions they have not yet answered and they have not fully integrated the teachings in their everyday life.

The result of this is that such people still have an underlying fear that they could be wrong, that they could be following a false teaching or that the entire spiritual path could be an illusion. Thus, they are naturally vulnerable to people with a very judgmental attitude, and it is a sad fact that many people have been turned away from the spiritual path by negative people.

In fact, there is an entire band of dark spirits, called the Spoilers, who are constantly seeking to get people to give up on the path. These spirits often work through people who themselves did not overcome their doubts. Such people then become “nevangelists” who feel compelled to point out what they see as flaws in other people’s beliefs. If people fall for this temptation, they too become instruments for the dark spirits and start to influence others, which is how this can spread like rings in the water. Entire spiritual organizations – that were perfectly valid and in some cases sponsored by the ascended masters – have been brought down by people acting as extensions of the Spoilers.

People who survive this initial attack on their beliefs end up becoming anchored in themselves. As you mature on the path, you begin to overcome your own limitations and this naturally turns your attention to how you can help other people. However, this brings you face to face with a higher level of initiations that are related to how you react when other people respond negatively to the help you are offering them with the best of intentions.


In this context it is important to realize that many spiritually mature people have an inner memory of how interactions are in the spiritual realm. There was a period where certain spiritual beings turned negative and became accusatory and judgmental, as described in Revelation:

And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night. (Revelation 12:10)

These beings were eventually sent to the material realm, as we have explained, partly as disembodied spirits and partly as people in embodiment. And they are still accusing people day and night. Only now they are not doing it before the real God but before a false god of their own making. The real point is that all spiritually mature people must rise above the need to judge and accuse other people. And thus, such people can have a civilized interaction without feeling that one belief system or organization has to be superior or the only right one.


There are certain turning points on the spiritual path. One of the important ones is that you become willing to look beyond your existing beliefs and consider new ideas. For some this means they leave the religion in which they grew up and look for new spiritual teachings and organizations. Others stay in their religion but renew the way they approach it. Either way, the beginning phases of this stage is characterized by a strong belief that there must be one true guru/teaching/organization and that all others are false.

Underlying this belief is the sense that you cannot save yourself, so you need help from the outside. There is nothing wrong with people having this belief (although the belief itself is wrong), because it is a necessary phase that all people go through. The problem is that when people are in this frame of mind, they do have a black-and-white world view. This makes them think they are absolutely right and that anyone who disagrees is wrong, is working with evil spirits or whatever the particular expression might be.

What is truly happening at this stage is that people are not ready to take full responsibility for their path and salvation. Thus, they are still projecting responsibility away from themselves. That is why they think that performing a spiritual technique can magically solve all of their problems. They are not yet capable of accepting the fact that before their outer situation will change, they have to change their inner situation.

The next big turning point comes when people become mature enough to start looking for the beam in their own eyes instead of seeing or projecting splinters in the eyes of other people. Before this point, people learn from outer teachings and from their experiences in life. This is, so to speak, the school of hard knocks. As a spiritual teacher, I look forward to the point where a lifestream becomes teachable, meaning that he or she is now ready for a direct inner contact with a spiritual teacher. This is where you enroll in the school of inner direction instead of the school of outer knocks.

The main element of this inner path is that you always look in the mirror and consider how you can improve yourself. You stop looking for faults in other people that you then use as an excuse for not improving yourself. It is the willingness to change yourself that makes you teachable, so it is a wonderful quality and I am in no way finding fault with it.

However, as you mature, you need to recognize that the tendency to always seek to improve yourself can be taken too far, and this is especially true when it comes to your relationship with other people. As a sincere seeker, you tend to think that if you have disagreements, conflicts or even a difference of opinion with other people, you need to improve yourself. And this is true up to a point, for as long as you have an attachment and is not at peace, you DO need to improve yourself.

However, what you need to improve is NOT your ability to reason with other people but your ability to discern when people are not teachable. And when you recognize that a person is not teachable, you need to let go of any desire to teach that person and be completely at peace with the fact that the person is absolutely convinced that you are wrong and that there is absolutely nothing you can do to change his or her mind. You simply need to let it go and move on.


I fully understand that what tricks many mature seekers is that they have developed a sincere desire to help other people. They have personally risen above the level of black-and-white thinking, so they can easily see when people are stuck in this frame of mind. They know this will only cause these people to be hurt, they know these people need to get out of it, and they would love to help them grow as quickly as possible and avoid all the suffering. Yet what you need to realize is that as long as a person is stuck in black-and-white thinking, that person is not teachable and is not open to the higher spiritual teaching that you can see.

I understand the temptation. You see the fallacy in a person’s arguments, and you can come up with an argument that you think makes complete sense and clearly shows the imperfections in the other person’s beliefs. So you think that if you present this argument to the person, he or she will respond to your argument the same way you would. Yet what you need to realize is that because the person is not at the same level of consciousness as you are, he or she will NOT respond the same way you do!

Your arguments will have no weight with the other person as long as he or she has not risen above the level of black-and-white thinking. Therefore, the best thing you can do is to accept that such people need to stay in the school of hard knocks until they have received so many knocks that they have had enough and finally say: “Who’s there? Is someone trying to tell me something by knocking?”

You need to recognize that planet earth is a schoolroom and it is wisely designed to accommodate a wide range of students. The beginning students are in the school of hard knocks, and they need to stay there until they are ready to move on. Thus, as a mature spiritual seeker, you should avoid engaging in interactions that seek to reason with these people’s state of consciousness. Instead, you should focus most of your attention on people who have climbed to the level where they are teachable.

As a help in doing this, consider my statement:

To this end was I born, and for this cause came I into the world, that I should bear witness unto the truth. Every one that is of the truth heareth my voice. (John 18:37)

This is the role of those who represent the Christ consciousness on earth, and all sincere spiritual seekers should strive to be counted among them. Yet in order to truly represent the Christ, you must strive to attain non-attachment.


You attain non-attachment by contemplating the law of free will. God has given all people free will. This means that when you meet a person who judges and accuses you or your beliefs, you fully accept that this person has a right to have and express this opinion. If the opinion springs from black-and-white thinking and is clearly biased or inaccurate, you fully accept that a person has the right to be at this level of consciousness.

Yet you then realize that you also have free will, meaning that you have a right to have your beliefs and to live your life while being completely unaffected by those who disagree with you. When you can truly accept your absolute right to live your life according to your beliefs, you can avoid feeling threatened by those who disagree. You can also avoid feeling that you have an obligation to save them from themselves. Thus, you can now state the highest truth that you see while being completely non-attached to how other people respond and without even having a desire that they should respond in a certain way.

Do you see my point? There is a subtle, but all-important difference, between stating a truth with an intention to convince other people and stating the same truth with complete non-attachment. In both cases, you might express the same truth, perhaps even use the same words, but your intention is different. And when your intention is completely pure, you have no attachment to the outcome. You perform right action while being non-attached to the fruits of action.

Let me make it clear that this is a goal to strive for, and you don’t need to condemn yourself for not meeting it right away. When you are in the material world, it is easy to become overwhelmed by its many pressures. I myself was not always non-attached when I walked the earth 2,000 years ago. That is why I was angry when I overturned the tables of the money-changers, why I was sometimes unnecessarily harsh with the scribes and Pharisees and why I was often irritable with my disciples. Nevertheless, it is important that mature seekers realize the importance of complete non-attachment and strive to attain it rather than thinking they have to get better at convincing other people.


I do not want people who read this to reason that they should never respond to people in black-and-white thinking. There are many cases where a response really is futile and will only waste your time and energy. Yet in some cases a response can be appropriate in terms of bearing witness to the higher truth you see. And when you rise above frustration, you will be free to have an intuitive sense of when to respond and when to simply move on.

I also want to make it clear that you should not use your outer mind to judge whether or not people are teachable. Do not fall for the temptation to judge after appearances. For example, the fact that people are open to new ideas does not mean they have taken full responsibility for themselves or even that they have realized that the key to changing their outer situation is to change their inner situation. There are people who go from guru to guru and from teaching to teaching without coming to the realization that makes them teachable. There are even people who have been in an ascended master teaching for decades without being teachable because they are simply not willing to look in the mirror. Thus, it is necessary to go beyond the outer mind and follow your inner direction.


At the lowest level of black-and-white thinking, people believe that the religion in which they grew up is the only true religion. In other words, they did not choose to enter that religion and have never questioned its validity. At this level, there is very little growth because people are not open to new ideas.

At the next level up, people become open to new ideas. They often leave their childhood religion and accept a new one. Yet they have not escaped the black-and-white thinking, so they now have to label their old religion as completely false and their new one as completely true. This is potentially a step forward because people have at least started moving. Yet there is a built-in risk that the ego can take people on a time-consuming detour. The psychological mechanism is that in order to leave one belief system and accept a new one, people have to accept that the old one was false, meaning that they have been fooled by false ideas.

In most cases, people deflect this at the conscious level by projecting all responsibility on the old religion and saying they were fooled, manipulated, coerced, brainwashed or whatever. Yet at the subconscious level, people know that if they have been fooled once, they could be fooled again. So even though they have made progress, their black-and-white thinking means that the progress was bought at a price, namely a deep inner insecurity.

In order to deal with this insecurity, it becomes very important for people that they are right. In other words, they have to be right in denouncing their old belief as absolutely false and they have to be right in presenting their new belief as absolutely right. This insecurity is used by the ego to control people and prevent them from rising to the level where they take responsibility for themselves and thus leave behind black-and-white thinking.

As I explain in the ego discourses, the modus operandi of the ego is to elevate one idea to the status of infallibility, meaning that you should never question it. So the ego now manages to convince people that they must never be proven wrong, for if they were, something terrible would happen. Thus, people enter a mindset in which they are constantly feeling threatened and they are constantly seeking to refute any idea or viewpoint that makes it seem like they are wrong. This, of course, makes it impossible for people to admit their mistakes, and if you cannot admit your mistakes, how can you learn from them and grow?


People now enter a mindset in which all of their mental effort is dedicated to proving that they are right. One aspect is that they feel a need to evangelize. After all, if you can convert the entire world to your belief system, the ego can feel it must be right. So people now aggressively begin to promote their current belief system, but because of the black-and-white thinking they cannot simply do this by focusing on the positive aspects of their beliefs. They also have to point out the negative aspects of other people’s beliefs. The ego’s reasoning is that if you destroy other people’s faith in their belief system, they will come to accept your belief system as the only true one.

Such people are essentially putting themselves in a state of perpetual conflict with all people who do not agree with them. They must refute anything which seems to threaten their own beliefs and they must destroy other people’s beliefs. In reality, this is driven by the ego’s philosophy that the end can justify the means. Although people often justify this by saying they are simply trying to save other people from going to hell, the reality is that they have become completely controlled by their egos and often by the dark spirits I called the Spoilers. Thus, they are willing to destroy other people’s faith in order to preserve their own.

In reality, the egos of such people are not trying to prove a certain belief system as the only right one. The ego is simply trying to divert people’s attention so they do not discover the ego and start removing the beam from their own eyes. Likewise, the dark spirits are not trying to prove the superiority of any one belief system. They are simply trying to trick people into engaging in endless conflicts over their beliefs, so that they misqualify energy that the dark spirits need in order to survive.

My point is that as a mature spiritual seeker, you need to recognize that if you engage these people and seek to convince them that their beliefs are wrong, you are threatening their fundamental approach to life. For them, never being proven wrong is a matter of life and death. One aspect of this is that if you seek to correct their statements – even if they are factually incorrect – they will immediately try to refute everything you say without actually giving it serious consideration. They are simply not evaluating your reasoning, for they have already decided that it could not be right. So they are only looking for ways to refute it, and black-and-white thinking can ALWAYS refute any argument given from a higher level of consciousness.

The other aspect is that when you threaten such peoples’ beliefs, they will attack you in return. If people are truly trapped in fear, they will be willing to destroy you in order to preserve the illusion that they are right. If they are less trapped in fear, they will seek to destroy your beliefs or your faith in general. You must also realize that many of these people are not in control of themselves. Thus, you are not dealing with a human being with whom you can reason. You are dealing with the person’s ego and/or the dark spirits working through the person. That is why you will encounter very aggressive and vicious attacks. I am not trying to defend such attacks, I am merely pointing out that the people cannot control themselves. Thus, you need to be aware that if you approach a mad dog, you should not be surprised if you get bitten. And you really should not blame the person, for you should know what you get into.


When you are dealing with people in black-and-white thinking, you need to be aware that they will project their own state of consciousness upon you, and thus you should not be surprised when they accuse YOU of doing what they themselves are doing. I am bringing this up because when you know what to expect, you can avoid being pulled into a pointless argument of seeking to refute what simply cannot be refuted as long as these people hold on to their black-and-white approach.

This is not to say that you cannot sometimes help such people rise above their state of mind. But in order to do so, you must surprise them by not doing what they expect. Such people expect that when they accuse you, you will seek to refute their accusations and accuse them in return. If you are to have any chance of reaching the real person who is trapped behind all the defenses, you need to shock that person by not responding as expected. That is one reason why I told people not to resist evil and to turn the other cheek. Sometimes this can literally shock people into rethinking their actions and mindset.

My point is that if the more mature spiritual seekers decide to engage people who are in black-and-white thinking, you should be aware of what you are getting into. It is often a thankless task with a low probability of positive change. Thus, it is constructive that you see it primarily as a way for you to test the purity of your intentions and your level of non-attachment. See it as a learning experience and use it for your own growth. Leave the other people’s growth entirely to their free will.

NOTE: For additional teachings on the topics in this discussion, see the following section. Also see the following message.


 Copyright © 2009 by Kim Michaels